I started this year with a fresh mind and healthier attitude than ever before. I am determined to make every day great (but to also not be too hard on myself if I don’t quite manage it). Goal setting is something I’ve actually learned through my job, and it applies to your work and your personal life.
I’ve always found setting myself goals easy. I do it all the time. But actually managing, evaluating, and measuring these goals is another thing entirely. It’s all very well setting yourself a goal, anyone can do that. But how do you know when you’ve reached your goal? Or what if you’re falling behind? Is your goal actually realistic and achievable?
Sit down with a notebook and pen. Pick a goal (or several) and write it down. Then, get specific. Why have you set yourself this goal? What does this goal involve? Who does this goal involve? Ask yourself in-depth questions, and really pull apart exactly what this goal of yours is.
Once you’ve done that, you’ll have an even clearer idea about where you want to get to and why. You can then set yourself a time limit, evaluate the achievability of the goal, and decide how you are going to measure your progress.
Don’t just stop with one goal either. Keep going! Every time you think of something you’d like to achieve, write it down. Even if you don’t do the evaluation malarkey straight away, at least it’s there in black and white for you to come back to. I would definitely forget most of my goals if I didn’t write them down. They come and go in waves, and sometimes you have a random urge to achieve something that’s completely unrelated to your current life and ventures. Ask yourself why you had that sudden urge to achieve that certain thing. It is amazing how much more you can learn about yourself from just taking the time to think.
Measuring the goal
Set yourself benchmarks for checking in on your progress. The benchmarks will be different for each goal. I’ve set myself some goals which require daily and weekly checks, and others which are a matter of months (and even years!). Setting yourself these time frames means you are constantly keeping on top of what you want to achieve. If something needs to be evaluated weekly, but you don’t look back over it for 4 months, then you may not have progressed at all and simply wasted 4 months!
This section will make the most sense when you’ve finished the first. So get cracking mate-y!
Making a change, one step at a time
I’ve found that a lot of people coast through life without a great deal of direction. This is especially apparent with people in their 20’s who aren’t really sure what they want to do with their lives. That’s normal, and the whole point of being young is discovering stuff. But you also want all your years (whether you’ve got 80 left or 10 left) to count. These goals don’t have to be drastic life-changing things. They can be the smallest and most insignificant of things. But they are still important. For example, one of my goals is to drink 2 litres of water a day. I still went through the motions of evaluating this goal, even though it seemed stupid at first. And it was so helpful.
Use these goal setting techniques to better yourself and your life. The only person getting in the way of what you want to achieve is you. And the more you tell yourself that isn’t the case then the more you’ll end up going nowhere. Change doesn’t happen overnight, and it doesn’t happen with minimal effort.
Keep focused. Stay motivated. You’ll get there.
Whilst we’re on these motivational and personal lines, have a read of my happiness blog post (if you missed it).
I’ve had a serious amount of writer’s block recently. I’ve been working super hard on blogs for work and completely neglected my own blog. I’d like to say that it’s because I’ve been incredibly busy, but that’s not necessarily true. The truth is that I’ve put a stupid amount of pressure on myself to create the perfect post. Hey, guess what? It doesn’t exist.
Most of wedding blogs are about beautiful images of beautiful weddings which, of course, are always favourable. And I get to write loads of them for work (you can check them out here). This blog, however, was not created for that. I’m not a photographer, florist, or venue, who needs stunning images to showcase their work. My blog is about advice, experiences, and ‘real talk’. Weddings mainly, but ‘life’ stuff too.
I like writing my mind (because I have a lot to say, soz). And I love having a platform to share my world of weddings with anyone who is interested. Stunning images are always fabulous, and I try to make my instagram page the home to all things pretty. Here, though, I’m expressing and sharing. In the hope that one or two of you might take something away from my words (advice? Not sure I can quite call it that).
About 20 minutes ago I re-read a few of my blog posts and reminded myself how much I enjoyed writing them, and asked myself why I’m not writing for myself every single day. Committing to a daily blog is probably slightly too ambitious (a girl can dream) but my epiphany has happened. Expect to hear from me a lot more (again, soz).
So, here is the perfect imperfect blog post, to explain how the perfect post does not exist… Does that even make any sense? Not really… Hence the imperfect.
Next up, the kitchen! We knew before we even moved in that we wanted to re-do the kitchen. Anyone who’s been in a similar situation will know that kitchen refits are not cheap. So our plan was always ‘how can we make it better?’. The tiles were dark and horrible, and the worktop was a nice colour but – again – dark. We wanted to brighten the place up!
We decided the easiest way was to replace the tiles. Not the cheapest option ever but certainly cheaper than a whole new kitchen! The colours had to either be quite neutral, or along the same lines of the living room. I thought about a combination of different shades of blues, greys, and whites, as a mosaic.
I searched online, and we went into show rooms, and found plenty of tiles we liked. But nothing was quite right. We went back and forth from a farmhouse-y style, to ultra modern, but something wasn’t fitting. It suddenly dawned on me that the problem wasn’t with the tiles, it was with the kitchen. We wanted tiles that were crisp, fresh, and stylish, but they didn’t match the colour of the units. And actually, the colour it all was now didn’t at all match what we had done in the living room. So, new units? Not quite! Euan’s dad had recently got into upscaling furniture, and gave Euan the idea of painting the cupboards & units. So, Annie Sloan paint in hand, he got to work.
It totally transformed the room, and was exactly what we needed. It was bright, fresh, and new, and worked well with the living room space. The only problem was now the tiles looked even worse than they did before. We spoke about doing the tiles, but the job just seemed huge. There was even talk of re-plastering the wall. Um, no thank you!
Inspired by the painting of the cupboards, I researched whether painting tiles is a ‘thing’. It is, so that’s what I did.
Euan did the cupboards, I did the tiles. Teamwork at it’s best! Between the two projects, the whole space was like new. Everything now looks so much better, and exactly how we wanted it to. I never thought I’d have a grey and white kitchen, but for this room in this flat it works perfectly.
The Finished Kitchen
Take a look at the living room blog post, and don’t forget to find me on youtube.