How to Choose a Wedding Colour Scheme

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The date has been set, venue booked, suppliers falling into place… Now to get down to the details. Some of you may not think that a wedding colour scheme is high on the list of priorities. I can understand why, but (trust me) it is. A colour scheme falls into the category of branding. Branding? My wedding? This lady is craaazy!

Bear with me

You know I’m the biggest advocate for weddings being about love and each other. And not a lot else. However, if you are spending (fill the gap) amount on your wedding, you want it to be right. You’re going to dress your bridesmaids anyway. And have flowers anyway. Likewise with napkins, tablecloths, wedding favours, etc. So your colour scheme is not adding anything onto your wedding, it’s simply bringing it together.

When you come to think of it, there is a lot that needs to coordinate on the day.

 

Flowers

When thinking of your wedding colour scheme, flowers probably spring to mind first. They are, after all, the main source of colour on the day. Whether your flowers determine your colour scheme or vice versa doesn’t matter. What’s important is that once your colours have been chosen, you stick with them throughout. Remember, if you’re having centrepiece flowers then the tableware has to come into consideration. And if you fancy bold flowers, you’ve got to consider how that might affect the overall ‘look’ of the day.

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Bridesmaids and Ushers

Probably one of the hardest things about organising a wedding is not only picking your bridesmaids and ushers, but dressing them too. Want to know what will make this easier? A colour scheme. Your groom wants blue suits, white shirts, and red ties. Without a colour scheme you might agree happily (seeing as he’s letting you pick – let’s face it – everything else). Then it comes to finding a dress for your gals. You’ve finally got them to agree on a dress they all love. But, the dress is bright fuchsia. It is going to look awful next to the usher’s ties. So you either tell your groom to change his choice, or you have to start again with the girls.

Disaster. Stressful. Easily Avoidable.

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Tableware

If you are going along the traditional and simplistic white/ivory theme for the tables, then you’ve not got much to worry about here. But if you want a pop of colour in the napkins, table runners, or even tablecloths themselves, then you have got to create a clear colour vision. There is no point spending your hard earned cash on stunning centrepiece flowers if they are going to be totally washed out in the photos because of your tablecloth choice. Or, worse, look completely dreadful because it all clashes.

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Wedding Colour Scheme Tips

Keep. It. Simple. Don’t over complicate it. Less is more. (etc). Start with one colour that you definitely want. Blush pink is always a good example because it can be matched to a lot of other colours without looking over the top. Then have a look at the ‘vibe’ of your day. Are you going for a rustic/boho vibe? Try greens, ivories, and maybe even a touch of burgundy. Having a glamorous celebration? Blush pink and gold is always a winner. Or maybe you’re a traditional gal with a modern edge, in which case why not try grey tones with your blush pink?

Personally, I’m not a huge fan of Pinterest. It’s an unpopular opinion, I know. But, Pinterest is fantastic for colour schemes. You can simply put (for example) ‘blush pink wedding colour palette’ in the search bar and there are always some fab colour palette suggestions.

colour scheme blog post lila bailey

colour scheme blog post lila bailey

 

In any project, you always need a starting point. When talking about wedding colours, your starting point should be your base colour. As with most of your planning, take things one step at a time. Everything always seems more manageable in small pieces!

 

 

 

 

 

Who is Lila Bailey?

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Good question! And one I’ve been asked a lot recently. So who actually is Lila Bailey? Well, not a real person for a start. ‘Lila’ and ‘Bailey’ are both names which I selected pretty carefully when I was deciding on a business name. But I’ve realised that they both need a bit of explaining!

 

Who is Lila?

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Lila (pronounced L-ill-a, not L-eye-la) is one of my middle names. I’ve always preferred Lila to Bethany (although I’m sure that wouldn’t be the case if my given name was Lila). But the significance of Lila to my business goes a lot deeper. So, if you’ve read my about page then you’ll know that wedding dresses are a huge passion of mine. One day I hope that ‘Lila Bailey’ will be a wedding dress brand, but we’ll see… Anyway, my parents gave me the name Lila because the lady who designed and made my mother’s wedding dress in the 90s was called Lila (plus it’s a super pretty name). I mean, that’s pretty meant to be. Before I even started making any official plans for my business, I knew I wanted Lila in the name somehow. So that’s Lila!

 

Who is Bailey?

who is lila bailey blog post grandma ‘Bailey’ is my paternal grandmother’s maiden name. She was an opera singer back in the day, and was a big influence throughout my childhood. As well as weddings, music is a huge part of my life. Particularly singing. And my grandma gave me my ability to sing, and also taught me to play piano. She was very special to me, and when I was in the early stages of figuring my business out, she sadly died. I knew I wanted to honour her, but not through ‘Teague’ (her married name) as she had her career as an opera singer before she was married. So her maiden name seemed much more fitting.

It also meant that my business name was not my name as I have never wanted that, but it still held close connections to me. And actually I feel that Lila Bailey is a super special name as it stands for so much, and has a lot more meaning than if I’d just used my own name.

Engagement Pressures

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Engagement pressures… A few weeks ago I did a little youtube video about engagements. I thought I’d do a little post to carry on the conversation, or for anyone who missed the video. No matter where you are in your relationship, or not in one at all, I bet you’ve got an opinion on engagements. I certainly do! And it’s amazing how much my opinion has changed too.

I never used to think the length of time before getting engaged mattered, and I still don’t. But, I do think the amount a couple has experienced together does matter. Like, a lot. That’s just my opinion though, and (harking back to my last post) based on my own personal experience.

 

What Are Engagement Pressures?

Okay, so engagement pressures can be a whole number of things. Pressure from family or friends to ‘hurry up’. Which, by the way, can be felt by both the proposer and the proposee. Pressure from influences (such as social media) for the proposal to be a certain way. Or announced in a certain way. Pressure to get engaged when you might not want to… The list goes on. To be honest, everyone will have their own version or understanding of engagement pressures. And that can’t be avoided (unless you’re insanely lucky). You can find a way of dealing with them though, or even ignoring them altogether.

 

Why Do We Feel Them?

Simply? To satisfy others. Humans have this weird need to be liked, admired, accepted, whatever. And when we feel these pressures from other people, we’re feeling them because we want to be accepted (or whatever) by those people. Or to make those people happy. Whatever the exact reason is, the point is the same. We aren’t feeling them to gain anything for ourselves. So over a topic which really is about you, your significant other, and your feelings, why do we let ourselves succumb to pressures to satisfy the needs of others? Who knows! But we shouldn’t. You shouldn’t. Life will be easier if you don’t.

The same rule applies for your wedding, too. It’s your day, and the only thing that really matters is that you’re committing to spending the rest of your life with the person you love. I mean, that’s pretty bloomin’ special, right?! It doesn’t need to be about anything (or anyone) else. Quite often a wedding turns into a couple trying to prove something, or trying to create this ‘image’ which is more often than not completely untrue. Relax, enjoy it, and who cares what other people think?! Let. It. Go.

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