Possibly every bride’s favourite thing about their wedding… the wedding dress. Because of my background of wedding dresses galore, I always knew this might be one of my hardest tasks. But, I was prepared for that and it’s not stopped me from enjoying the journey!
Wedding Dress – Where I’m up to (Part 1)
So I have indeed found my dress. Well, sort of!
I’ve always thought I’d design my own wedding dress. I think growing up around wedding dress designers gave me that inspiration. But whatever it was, when it came to actually shopping for my dress it only became more apparent that I really did want to create my own dress.
I’m lucky enough to know Alan & Marguerite, aka the wedding dress designers ‘Alan Hannah’, from working in the industry. British made wedding dresses (or anything for that matter) are – in my opinion – a must, so who better to go to than a company who designs & makes their dresses in London? Before I got in contact with Alan Hannah I thought I’d find a shop or two stocking their dresses so I could try a couple on. This meant I could go to Alan Hannah with a good idea of the fabrics & fit etc of their dresses, and go from there (I could get quite technical but I won’t bore you, for now…).
Wedding Dress – Where I’m up to (Part 2)
During my search, I found ‘Olivia Hooper’ located about 1hr 45mins from me. This was perfect, and I loved the look of the shop so my mum & I went on a girlie day trip one Saturday. And wow, what an amazing turn of fate! Naomi took my appointment and she totally got what I was trying to say. After a good few hours, we had sketched the dress design I had in my head and made a rough appointment for getting my measurements done in the new year. Naomi has worked with Alan & Marguerite for 25 years so she knew they’d be able to create my dress from scratch, just like I had always dreamed!
I’ve now had my measurements taken and my design will be coming to life at the Alan Hannah HQ over the next month or two. I’ll have two calico fittings (basically mock-up drafts of the dress, but in a basic fabric), before the real thing gets made early next year. Eeek! Because I’ve never actually seen my dress in the flesh it’s quite a scary process, but I have sooooo much faith in Naomi & Sarah at Olivia Hooper, and the whole team at Alan Hannah, so I know it’s going to be okay.
Wedding Dress – Shops to visit?
I trekked to a lot of bridal shops (despite never intending to do so!), but it was surprisingly hard to find shops that are actually worth going to. Everyone is different, and will be looking for a different type of dress and/or experience. However, if you do want a lovely trip to a gorgeous bridal shop then below are my recommendations!
Pirouette, Exeter – one of the shops I’ve previously worked in. And it is lovely. A stunning medieval building filled with beautiful dresses from 3-4 different designers. It’s an intimate shop so don’t bring many people with you!
Ellie Rose, Bath– I had the most fabulous appointment at this magic little shop. Super close to the Royal Crescent, and stocking New York designers (including Hayley Paige). Highly recommend!
The Bridal House of Cornwall, Truro – the definition of an experience. I had the best day at this bridal shop, partly because it was the day I asked my bestie to be my bridesmaid. But also because it’s such a wonderful shop with lovely staff who were so enthusiastic & helpful. Plus you get to have a little photo sesh at the end! What’s not to love?!
Olivia Hooper, Wedmore – and of course, the bridal shop to end all bridal shops. Olivia Hopper! A perfect & pristine bridal shop with only the best of British Bridal Designers. Expertise is invaluable, which is what makes this shop even more amazing. I would recommend no shop more than this one
Wedding Dress Shopping – Top Tips?
Oh how I could go on (and on, and on) about wedding dresses and all the advice I’d give. But I won’t. Instead I’ve picked a handful of my top, top tips!
Do your research, but don’t limit yourself. Easy, right? What I mean is search for designers/dresses and find a limited few that you like. Because if you have no idea at all it’s going to be a hard process for both you and the bridal shops you visit! Having said that, still keep an open mind because you never know what you might actually fall in love with.
Don’t try on too many dresses. The worst thing you can do is try on so many dresses that your mind starts to explode. By all mean try on different styles, but once you know what you like don’t waste time trying on things you know you won’t fall in love with.
Don’t take a huge entourage. I know everyone wants to be involved, and the thought of having everyone squealing around you might seem super cute. It’s not. In fact, it’s usually unhelpful and dampens your experience. I only ever took 1-2 people with me and it was the best decision I made! A lot of bridal shops are catching onto that now and don’t let you bring too many people. So don’t be alarmed if that happens, it’s for your own good.
Following on from that, listen to your bridal stylist. Especially if they really do know what they’re doing. These women see brides-to-be trying on dresses every day, so they know how it works. They know what shapes, necklines, and fabrics will best suit your body. And at the end of the day they’re there to help you find the dress of your dreams, so don’t dismiss what they have to say.
I honestly could go on for hours about wedding dress shopping tips, but I think I’d say those are my 4 main ones. If you’re struggling with your dress and want some advice, by all means give me a buzz or comment below!
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Ahh the infamous Bridal Party. Often the most difficult thing couples face during their planning process – us included! So here’s a bit about where we’re up to, what’s been easy/difficult, and my top tips for choosing yours!
The Bridal Party – Where are we up to?
If you keep up to date with my Youtube channel, you may remember I made a video last year about my Bridesmaid & Bride Tribe boxes, (you can find the video here) and I touched on our bridal party decision making process then. But, I’ll fill you in a bit more on here.
So with Euan, it was most definitely an all-or-nothing approach. He could either have all of his close friends, plus my brothers and his brother-in-law (totalling 8!) or he could scale it back and just have family plus his best friend as his best man. After a lot of going back & forth, he decided to keep things simple (and therefore offend the least amount of people) by having my brother and his sister’s husband as ushers, his best man, and a musher (mini-usher) aka my youngest brother who will be 13 when we get married.
And then there was the bridesmaid decision! Don’t get me wrong, Euan found his decision hard, but I definitely found mine harder. I have a fabulous bunch of girlfriends from this area and I also have some wonderful childhood besties from where I grew up. However, I was even more adamant than Euan about having small numbers for my bridal party. Anyone else feel like they would just end up doing things to keep everyone else happy rather than themselves? And the thought of finding a dress that 6-7 young women will agree on surely makes your head spin? It certainly did for me.
I also started going down the round that I’m sure many of you are familiar with; the ‘well if I have them, then I really should have them too. And if I’ve got her, then I should definitely have her’…. And so on! My head could honestly have exploded.
In the end I went back to where I started and asked my cousin to be my maid of honour, and my childhood bestie and a very close friend from later years to be my bridesmaids. And I feel so good about my decision!
The Bridal Party – Extras!
Euan & I both have a close friend with a little one, which has been perfect because we’re involving them by having their children as our flower girl and page boy. Even more perfect is my friend has a daughter and his friend has a son – so we’ve got one of each! We’ve got another flower girl and page boy who are yet to be asked, so we’re keeping that close to our chests until we’ve had a chance to ask them.
And, back to my gals. Although I didn’t feel right having everyone as a bridesmaid, I still wanted my closest girls to be involved. So instead of bridesmaids, I’ve got them as part of my ‘Bride Tribe’. They can still help with all the fun parts of a wedding (the hen party planning, getting ready in the morning, etc) but without the whole bridesmaids dresses & walking down the aisle thing.
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The Bridal Party – What has been difficult?
I’ve pretty much already answered this one – the most difficult thing was actually making the decision. Some people are bound to find this easier than we did, but I do think it’s a tricky one for most people. Neither Euan nor I like upsetting people, but at the end of the day we had to do what was right for us.
Most of our friends were absolutely amazing about it and respect our decision (especially my girls, bless them!). It’s never smooth-sailing though and we did have a bit of trouble with someone, but we knew that would happen! Can’t win with everyone now can you?
The Bridal Party – What has been easy?
Choosing our flower girls & page boys was incredibly easy, and I cannot wait to see them all in their little outfits!
My 3 bridesmaids are yet to hang out together, but we’ve got a group chat and they’ve all been amazing on there. So supportive, excited, and genuinely full of love for me & Euan and our wedding, which makes life so much easier. We’re all meeting up in June to go bridesmaid dress shopping which is when the four of us will properly get to meet up together – and I know it’s going to be super.
The Bridal Party – Top Tips?
Okay so my top tips for The Bridal Party…
Choose people who genuinely love & support you and your fiancé. You want to be surrounded by people who want to be part of your day because they love you. Not because they don’t want to be left out!
Don’t choose someone your other half doesn’t get on with. You might feel super close to them, but if they don’t see eye to eye with your fiancé then you’re fighting a losing battle, and it won’t be pretty.
Find jobs or other roles for those who aren’t in your bridal party but who you don’t want to upset. There are somany things people can help with/be involved with when it comes to a wedding. And you might find they will prefer that to being in your bridal party anyway!
Make the decision for you, and make sure it’s the right one. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – this is your day. People will get over not being in your bridal party, but you only get one shot at your wedding day. Each and every decision should be made because you want to make it, not because you feel like you have to keep everyone else happy.
So that’s our bridal party update! If you missed my last post about our wedding suppliers, you can find it here.
Today I’m chatting about our suppliers; where we are up to, any problems along the way, and what’s left to do!
Our Suppliers – Where are we up to?
I’d say I’m about 50% of the way through the planning process now. And I definitely prioritised certain suppliers because I know they get booked up fast!
So what suppliers have we booked? The following have been ticked off my list…
I’m also in the process of having my wedding dress made, and about to book hair & make-up. Phew!
As I’m fortunate enough to work with an abundance of amazing suppliers, I pretty much knew who I wanted and booked the first 6 almost immediately.
Our original wedding co-ordinator fell through, and at first I was pretty cross about it. But as it turned out I’m actually so glad! I went on a little hunt for wedding planners and found a wonderful lady on Instagram. I’m thrilled she’s now our wedding co-ordinator and I can’t wait for her to be part of our day!
Our Suppliers – What’s left to do?
Sounds like I’ve got it pretty sorted, right? Oh I wish! There’s still a lot to do… (not that I’m stressing or anything…!). So, what is actually left?
Bridesmaid & flower girl dresses
Bridal accessories (shoes etc for me & the girls)
Gents outfits (Kilts for Euan & his best man, suits for the ushers, and outfits for the page boys!)
Decor, all the decor!
Tables & chairs
Linen, cutlery, crockery, glassware… etc etc
Gifts for various people
No doubt I’m forgetting some crucial things… Some of the above are urgent, others not so much. But it all still needs doing! Luckily, our church is booked. So if all else fails, at least we are actually getting married (and I’ll have a dress to wear).
Our Suppliers – Any problems?
Apart from the original wedding co-ordinator, we’ve actually had it pretty smooth-sailing so far (touch wood!). I just want to start really getting the smaller details sorted and then I’ll feel loads better. Anyone who’s previously been a bride-to-be will know those awful wedding dreams (nightmares) where everything is going wrong, or the day is happening earlier than it should, etc etc. But luckily I’ve used those nightmares as planning motivation, so whatever went wrong in the dream I’ve then sorted in real life and they seem to go away! (Until I start worrying about the next thing).
Supplier Top Tips
Okay so top tips for choosing suppliers…
Ask another supplier’s advice. Obviously this requires having actually booked a supplier, but you get to know a lot about different suppliers when you work in the industry so it’s well worth asking around for recommendations.
If you don’t know where to start but have a friend who’s been married or – even better – works in the industry, then ask their advice.
If in doubt, trust your instinct. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t rush into making a decision. Take your time and trust what you feel!
With photographers, make sure they send you a link to galleries of more than one full wedding. And if they don’t, just ask. It’s important that photography is consistent across not one wedding as a whole, but multiple weddings too. And if they’re reluctant to send you a gallery then that answers your question for you!
With florists, make sure their ‘style’ is in keeping with what you want from your wedding. They may be very talented, but just not your cup of tea. And you want your day to feel like yours so don’t be afraid of going for someone different who suits your style more.
Feel comfortable. With any supplier, but especially those who are going to be there on the day, the most important thing is that you feel comfortable. Yes, recommendations are super important but if you don’t feel comfortable with someone who has been recommended to you, keep searching until you find someone you do feel comfortable with. This is your day.
Take a look at my previous post to find out more about our venue. And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram if you don’t already!
First thing’s first, the venue… If you’ve been keeping up to date with my Instagram stories over the past 6 months or so, you’ll know that our wedding venue is somewhat unique, beautiful, and – so far – incredibly stressful! I’ve never been one for the ‘easy option’ and my wedding has been not exception…
The Venue – Where are we up to?
For those of you who don’t know, we’ve chosen to have our wedding reception at my parents’ house in a stunning, old, (and currently semi-derelict) barn. (We’re getting married at a church in Tavistock).
The barn (when completed will be named ‘Chapel Barn’) has always been an incredibly special place. My parents have had plans to do it up for the past 10 years (since we moved to Devon) and they finally started by doing the roof back in 2017.
In April 2018 Euan popped the question and after initially deliberating over whether to use the barn, or to have a marquee in one of the fields, we decided on the barn. Which meant there was a timescale for the project and things needed to start moving pretty quickly!
The floor needed digging out completely (it used to be home to 3 giant corn mills!) so that was the first job. Then it was underfloor heating and re-laying the floor. That started in October and is the only thing that has been completed *sigh*.
We’ve had the windows & doors made, which have arrived in a less than perfect condition *sigh* so need to be sorted asap. Then they can be put in and we can finally get the second floor in! Then stairs need to go in and that’ll be the worst of the structural stuff done. Until that point, my blood pressure will remain pretty high…
The Venue – What has been difficult?
At the moment, the most difficult thing has been waiting for it all to get done. Mainly because until it’s finished, it’s hard for us to decide exactly where everything is going to take place! I’ve got a pretty good idea in my head of logistically how it’s all going to work, but until I’ve seen it in the flesh it’s really hard to be 100% certain.
The other thing which has been slightly hard is the size of the barn. It only seats around 100 people comfortably, and our ideal guest-list is more like 150… But, we knew this was the case when we chose the barn over the marquee (and was actually one of my reasons for choosing the barn… but more on that later).
The Venue – Best Bits?
My absolute favourite thing about the venue being the barn is that it’s so incredibly special & personal to us. I’m not sure if it’s because I’ve worked for wedding venues, or because I’ve always thought of my family home as the perfect place to celebrate my wedding. Either way, I’m so grateful to be lucky enough to have this amazing barn to use!
I also love that I’m completely starting from scratch. Whilst it would be so (so so so so) much easier to get married at an existing wedding venue where everything you need is provided already, I cannot express how much I’m loving the challenge of putting it altogether myself. I am a wedding planner after all, so it makes sense!
Recently I’ve been looking into tablecloths and comparing prices, as well as all the fun bits like table decor and signs. It’s not an easy journey but fully worth it!
The Venue – Top Tips?
Okay, so top tips for your venue search…
Don’t pay too much – you’d be amazed at how many venues totally overcharge for the ‘privilege’ of using their space. At some point I’ll do a blog with a breakdown of venue costs etc so you can see what you should be spending.
Decide what is most important to you a find a venue which fits your needs. There are hundreds (and hundreds) of venues out there, so don’t compromise on the things that matter. Everyone will have different priorities, and that’s okay! So figure out what yours are before you start your venue search. The perfect one will be out there, I promise!
Make sure everything you need is included, not extra. Sometimes a deal will seem too good to be true, which means it probably is!
Wet weather!! If your venue is perfect in the rain, then it’ll be extra perfect in the sun. This is the UK, and good weather is a luxury, not a guarantee. Hope for good weather always, but go for a venue that is prepared for the worst.
Most importantly… fall in love with it! You only get one shot, and feeling comfortable and happy with your decision is a total priority. You can absolutely fall in love with a venue as much as I’ve fallen in love with our barn, if not more!
So that’s the venue. Next up I’ll be sharing our suppliers, how we (I) found them, and some top tips for choosing yours!
If you want to see more from the barn, head on over to my Instagram page (@lilabaileyweddings) and have a watch of my ‘Barn Renovation’ highlight.
Check out my last post for a bit about my past year of engagement…
To mark a year of engagement (how has that happened?!), I thought it was time for a ‘Wedding Planning Update’ blog post series. In this series I’ll be talking you through all the decisions that have been made, suppliers booked, the ups & downs of planning a wedding, and all the bits in between!
But, let’s start with what I’ve learnt about engagements from other people, and from my own experiences.
I think people often fantasise about being engaged. It’s glamourised in the media, and from a young age girls are brought up looking forward to that ‘will you marry me’ moment. And, to be honest, I think it’s incredibly unhealthy.
Being engaged isn’t about the shiny ring, the glamorous trips to wedding dress shops, or the excuse to drink champagne all the time. It’s about a commitment you’re making to another person, a commitment that’s going to last for the rest of your life. I think people lose sight of that amongst the excitement of ‘wanting’ to be engaged, and they forget that an engagement also means a marriage. Don’t get me wrong, being engaged is a wonderful period of time – possibly the best ever! But only if it’s for the right reasons, and with the right person.
My mum once said to me ‘marry the man for the man, not for the wedding’, and it’s so true. If you weren’t getting a beautiful engagement ring, you weren’t getting the dress shopping, you weren’t getting the wedding, the bridesmaids, the gifts, the photos… Would you still want to get married? It seems like the simplest of things, but in actual fact it’s astonishing how many people I’ve met who are one hundred percent getting married for the wedding, and not the person or the marriage.
“Fall in love with the person, not the life they can give you”
Engaged for a whole year!
I actually can’t believe it has been a whole year! I honestly don’t know where the time has gone. So, what has it been like? Amazing, exciting, but by no means perfect.
The things I’ve loved most is being surrounded by friends & family who adore me & Euan and cannot wait for our wedding. The support and love we’ve felt in this past year has been incredible, and we are so grateful for our amazing friends. There’s something indescribably magical about people genuinely loving the two of you as a couple and is absolutely essential for a lasting relationship.
I’ve also loved the amazing memories I’ve made with my closest gals going wedding dress shopping (in many different places!), the last-minute (ish) engagement party we had last year, and the memories we’re yet to make in the next 17 months!
And of course the wedding planning itself. Which is also the part that has brought the imperfections… But more on that later!