To mark a year of engagement (how has that happened?!), I thought it was time for a ‘Wedding Planning Update’ blog post series. In this series I’ll be talking you through all the decisions that have been made, suppliers booked, the ups & downs of planning a wedding, and all the bits in between!
But, let’s start with what I’ve learnt about engagements from other people, and from my own experiences.
I think people often fantasise about being engaged. It’s glamourised in the media, and from a young age girls are brought up looking forward to that ‘will you marry me’ moment. And, to be honest, I think it’s incredibly unhealthy.
Being engaged isn’t about the shiny ring, the glamorous trips to wedding dress shops, or the excuse to drink champagne all the time. It’s about a commitment you’re making to another person, a commitment that’s going to last for the rest of your life. I think people lose sight of that amongst the excitement of ‘wanting’ to be engaged, and they forget that an engagement also means a marriage. Don’t get me wrong, being engaged is a wonderful period of time – possibly the best ever! But only if it’s for the right reasons, and with the right person.
My mum once said to me ‘marry the man for the man, not for the wedding’, and it’s so true. If you weren’t getting a beautiful engagement ring, you weren’t getting the dress shopping, you weren’t getting the wedding, the bridesmaids, the gifts, the photos… Would you still want to get married? It seems like the simplest of things, but in actual fact it’s astonishing how many people I’ve met who are one hundred percent getting married for the wedding, and not the person or the marriage.
“Fall in love with the person, not the life they can give you”
Engaged for a whole year!
I actually can’t believe it has been a whole year! I honestly don’t know where the time has gone. So, what has it been like? Amazing, exciting, but by no means perfect.
The things I’ve loved most is being surrounded by friends & family who adore me & Euan and cannot wait for our wedding. The support and love we’ve felt in this past year has been incredible, and we are so grateful for our amazing friends. There’s something indescribably magical about people genuinely loving the two of you as a couple and is absolutely essential for a lasting relationship.
I’ve also loved the amazing memories I’ve made with my closest gals going wedding dress shopping (in many different places!), the last-minute (ish) engagement party we had last year, and the memories we’re yet to make in the next 17 months!
And of course the wedding planning itself. Which is also the part that has brought the imperfections… But more on that later!