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Biodegradable Confetti & The Environment

If I’ve got through a viewing appointment without discussing confetti then you’ll probably find pigs are flying… Basically, I am always getting asked about it! Most venues will allow biodegradable confetti, but how biodegradable is it really?

I was genuinely shocked when I read how long some “biodegradable” confetti can take to disappear. So, being the little research nerd that I am I decided to look into it some more…

The Maze that is Confetti

Nowadays there isn’t so much of the ‘traditional’ confetti around, and thank goodness! If the confetti doesn’t say it’s biodegradable, then it’s probably made out of microplastics, mylar, or even some form of metal component – and we all know how bad they are for the environment!

You’ll probably find that most easily accessible confetti will be tissue confetti, and will be billed as biodegradable. The time it takes to actually disappear is mostly weather dependant, and can hang around for quite some time. You’ve probably seen churchyards littered with the stuff weeks after a wedding has occurred! Generally speaking tissue confetti isn’t necessarily bad for the environment, but it’s not great either. So yes, it’s ‘technically’ biodegradable, but also misleading.

Also – be warned! If the confetti has a slight shine to it – even if it says it’s biodegradable – it’s probably made with some kind of metallic component.

Biodegradable Confetti Solutions

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If you’re really keen to have properly biodegradable confetti, the best route to go down is petals (real ones), leaves, and dried flowers. Or basically anything completely natural! Rice has been popular over time, but it can be slippy and it’s just not as pretty.

Something like lavender works wonderfully – and it smells gorrrrgeous! We will most definitely be having properly natural confetti of some sort – possibly a mix of leaves and petals. But you’ll have to wait & see!

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Hopefully that gives you a bit more of an insight into the world of confetti and what to be aware of. If you want to keep up to date with the latest blog posts, sign up to my mailing list. And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram!

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Engagement Shoots – Why they are Important

On Easter Sunday (end of April) Euan & I were lucky enough to have the most amazing engagement shoot with our photographer, Emma (Freckle Photography). We lucked out with the weather (heatwave weekend!) and had soo much fun laughing, smiling, and chatting.

I’m going to share a few of our preview images soon, but I wanted to first talk a bit about engagement shoots and why they are important.

Engagement Shoots

Also know as pre-wedding shoots, depending on how close to your wedding you have it! Firstly, what are engagement shoots? Well, they’re basically a photoshoot with your wedding photographer which takes place during your engagement period. Not much to it really!

Some photographers will offer engagement/pre-wedding shoots as part of their photography package, and others will offer them for an additional price. Either way, I highly recommend.

Why are they important?

I’ve always thought engagement shoots were incredibly important. Seeing the difference between couples on their wedding day who have previously had a photoshoot with their photographer and those who haven’t solidified it in my mind a long time ago. But, having never had one myself I didn’t want to be too vocal about how important they are until I had experienced it for myself.

But, now I have! So why are they important? Time for some bullet points I think…

  • You get to meet your photographer properly. You’re going to be getting quite up close and personal in front of your photographer, so you want to feel comfortable around them. And the best way for you all to get to know each other is to go out and have some pics taken!
  • It’s good practice. When do you ever stand in front of a camera for 30 minutes solidly, kissing & cuddling your other half? It’s an alien concept, and is surprisingly difficult. Even the most confident of people will feel a tad shy when there’s someone telling them to have a smooch with a camera pointed in their face.
  • Your photographer gets a chance to photograph you. Obvious, right? What I mean is during engagement shoots, photographers can figure out your most flattering sides & angles, work out where best to stand you both in relation to each other, and all the other clever photography tricks. I have zero photography experience (can you tell?) but in any walk of life, things are almost always easier second time around. And if you have an engagement shoot, your wedding day won’t be the first time your photographer has photographed you.
  • Photos will probably take up less time on your wedding day. This is tied pretty closely to you both being more comfortable in front of a camera paired with your photographer knowing you through their lens. Since you’ve ‘been there done that’ you won’t need to spend quite as long faffing around trying to get the perfect pic.

There are many other benefits to having engagement shoots, the photos for example! Your engagement period is one of the most special times in your life, so why not have some killer pics to remember it by? And also, why not?! Go for it! We had the most amazing evening having our engagement shoot, and that in itself was pretty special. Let alone the amazing pics Emma took!

Planning Update

Keep your eyes peeled for some preview images on the blog over the next few days… And in the meantime, why don’t you catch up with my planning update blog post series?

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The Bridal House of Cornwall – Local Wedding Dress Shopping Experience

On my hunt for the perfect wedding dress, I recently visited The Bridal House of Cornwall in Truro. Whilst Truro isn’t super local to me, it’s still not far. I actually travelled down by train and it was comfortable & easy.

The main reason for visiting The Bridal House of Cornwall was to treat one of my besties to a ‘wedding day out’ as I was going to ask her to be my bridesmaid (not that she knew that of course). I’m a tad fussy when it comes to bridal shops, and after my last experience I knew I didn’t want to just go ‘anywhere’. I wanted it to be really lovely. We were not disappointed!

 

The Bridal House of Cornwall – About the shop

If you know Truro at all then you’ll know what a gorgeous city it is. And The Bridal House of Cornwall, a stunning Georgian Mansion nestled in the heart of the city, was very in-keeping with that.

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They stock a range of designers, from the high-end glitz & glamour queen, Jenny Packham, to the more affordable Spanish brand, Rosa Clara. Plus a bit of everything in between! A personal favourite is London designer, Naomi Neoh, who uses incredible silks and laces to create ultimate elegant wedding dresses.

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The Bridal House of Cornwall Experience

There are two different options for your appointment. They offer a standard hour long appointment which is free of charge, or an ‘experience’ appointment which I highly recommend. My bridesmaid & I arrived early and were seated in the library and handed a glass of bubbles. The stylist was super friendly and chatty, and made us feel instantly welcome & comfortable.

The library is a gorgeous room. One wall is filled with shelves of shoes & jewellery, and another a bookcase design with vintage teacups and other adorable trinkets. My bridesmaid, Ruby, was in her element (which made me super happy because I wanted her to enjoy the day as much as me). We chatted some more to the stylist before she took us through to the showroom. In my opinion, they have the perfect number of dresses. Not so few that you can’t find any you like, but not so many that you get lost amongst them.

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Once we had chosen a handful of dresses, we were taken through to another room (honestly, this place is just fab) where I then tried on the gowns. There is a catwalk which you walk down and the stylist takes pictures for you to look through later. Before the appointment, the thought of a ‘catwalk’ seemed a bit daunting, but it’s not like that at all. The whole appointment was super relaxed and most importantly, fun.

We spent probably around an hour trying on dresses, and I enjoyed every second of it. As did Ruby! Once the dress-trying part was over, we went back into the library to look through the photos and select the ones we wanted to keep. And just when we thought the fun was over, we went back into the showroom where our stylist let us loose on the Photo Booth props and we had a mini photoshoot to document the day!

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It was honestly the most wonderful experience and I don’t think I’ll have another one like it. Although I didn’t find ‘the’ dress, that didn’t matter to me at all. It’s all these moments which make planning a wedding so exciting & memorable, and I’m so thankful to the team at The Bridal House of Cornwall for making such an important day that bit more special. 100% would recommend!

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Is it really all just for ‘one day’?

Okay, so as a bride-to-be how many times has ‘all this, just for one day’ been said to you? Have you even thought it yourself? I have already had so many people accost me with questions about it ‘just being for one day’. Well, people, I’m about to take you on a journey of discovery.

Newsflash! It’s not just about one day.

Just for one day? Part 1…

Firstly, it’s not ‘just a day’. It’s the foundation for your marriage. The day it all started. A celebration of your love. A chance for you to show the people around you how much they mean to you, how much you mean to them, and how much you (as a couple) mean to each other. It’s pretty symbolic.

Not to mention the family & friends reunion side of it. Tell me another instance where you get to sit in a room with all the most important people in your life. In one place. Altogether. For a happy occasion. You can’t? That’s because there isn’t one.

Just for one day? Part 2…

Secondly, why wouldn’t you want an excuse to dress up in the best and most expensive clothing you can afford, drink amazing wine, eat wonderful food, and dance the night away? And whilst smiling the entire time! That sounds like the perfect day. What’s not to love?!

Just for one day? Part 3…

Seriously though, it really isn’t just about that one day. Thirdly, and most importantly, it’s about the journey.

It’s about that indescribable feeling of being proposed to, and the tears of excitement and happiness as you share the news with family & friends.

It’s about deciding who you want to stand beside you on the day, and watching their expression as you tell them.

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It’s about working with your partner and making decisions about your day which reflect you as a couple, and learning more about each other as you do so.

It’s about listening to and respecting your partner’s thoughts & visions for your day and coming to conclusions that you are both happy with.

It’s about wedding dress shopping with your mum and girl-friends, drinking bubbles and squealing for no particular reason, just because.

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It’s about the days out with you girls/boys and giving them a chance to show you how much you mean to them.

It’s about sharing your excitement with your parents, and watching how happy it makes them to see you so elevated.

It’s about all of those little things in the build up. All of the decisions you make because of the wedding. All the conversations you have and all the memories you make along the way.

So, no, it’s not all for just one day.

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Saving Money – Budget Priorities

In my last post, I explored the 4 things worth spending the majority of your wedding budget on (you can find it here). This post is about saving money…

Saving your money

  1. Stationery. Don’t get me wrong, I love stationery. And because your stationery the first time your guests get to see a glimpse of your wedding day, it is a really important added touch. But it is an added touch, and whilst everyone needs to know where to be and when, there comes a point where all those stationery extras become a little unnecessary.
  2. The Guestbook. Again, having a guestbook is a lovely touch and a great way to get creative. But let’s be realistic for a second. You don’t need to spend much on a guestbook. There are many different guest book ideas, none of which cost too much, so don’t try and overcomplicate things by coming up with some elaborate guestbook plan. Save your hard earned cash for putting towards one of the budget priorities, because – let’s face it – your guests really aren’t going to notice or care about how much money/time/effort you put into the guestbook. They’ll be more interested in the booze – trust me.
  3. The Wedding Favours. Personally, I adore the idea of wedding favours. Anything miniature and you’ve got me hooked. That was – however – until I was looking into having gin miniatures as wedding favours at my own wedding. I was going to end up spending £250 on essentially a large shot of gin per person, and for what? The idea is great, and the gin miniatures would’ve been super cute (for about half a minute). But is it worth £250? I’m not saying don’t bother with wedding favours at all, I think they are a lovely touch. Just be clever about it. Instead of spending £1.50 a head, trying spending 40p. Every little saving hack helps!
  4. Those extra bits. The list of ‘extras’ you can add to your wedding day is honestly endless. Baskets of flip flops, sparklers, sweet stations, additional decor, the list goes on… And if your budget allows, then go for it. But if you’re trying to cut back on your spending then trust me, these things are not a priority. A lovely touch, don’t get me wrong, but should in no way be the focus of your time, energy, and money.

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Budget Setting – What should you prioritise?

Budget setting is really important for most things in life, but especially so for your wedding. It’s incredible how easy it is to end up spending a fortune. Planning a wedding is no small task, and it can be so easy to get carried away. So what do guests actually notice at a wedding? What should you prioritise?

Top 4 Budget Priorities

  1. The Ceremony. Your guests will have been waiting possibly years for you crazy kids to tie the knot. This is the most important part of your day, and the bit that holds the most meaning. I’ve found over the past year or so, the ceremony part of the day has become less & less important to couples, and I think that’s a real shame. Of course the rest of the day is important – it is a celebration after all. But the reason the rest of the day exists is because of the marriage, aka the ceremony (or service if you’re getting married in church). Make the most of it. That might be by having a reading that means a lot to you, or maybe even writing your own vows. Either way, this is why everyone has ‘gathered here today’, so don’t let it become unimportant.
  2. The Food & Drink. Something guests will always remember is the amount of food & drink (alcoholic and non-alcoholic) that was provided.  If the food was scarce or rubbish (or both) then that’s what guests will come away with in the forefront of their minds. Likewise with the drinks (okay, maybe mainly alcohol – but the non-drinkers will sure remember if all they were offered was water!), if the alcohol runs out or the bar is very expensive, this will have a negative impact on the day as a whole. The last thing you want your friends & family to say is ‘lovely wedding but I left hungry and the drinks were overpriced’…
  3. The Venue. It doesn’t matter what ‘add-ons’ you have to your wedding day, if the venue isn’t right then guests will notice. There are loads of elements that make the venue ‘right’ for you. It’s about deciding what kind of wedding you want and how the venue will reflect you as a couple. The time of year you want to get married and finding a venue that suits your chosen season is also a factor to consider. Plus, it’s important to know exactly what you’re getting for your money too, and what you’ll need to pay for in addition to the venue hire.
  4. The Music. Whether you opt for a band or a DJ, make sure the tunes are fun and get people on the dance floor. You can’t beat mixing it up with some old-school classics as well as modern pop-hits. And if you are having a band, make sure you’ve either heard them live yourself or they come with excellent recommendations from someone you know or respect. Bands are not cheap, and you can be sure your guests will remember if your first dance was sung out of tune or they only played classic love ballads… Not exactly the crows pleasers you may have hoped for!

So those are the top 4 budget priorities. Next up I’ll be exploring the less important elements of a wedding which sometimes get more attention than they deserve…

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How to Choose a Wedding Colour Scheme

The date has been set, venue booked, suppliers falling into place… Now to get down to the details. Some of you may not think that a wedding colour scheme is high on the list of priorities. I can understand why, but (trust me) it is. A colour scheme falls into the category of branding. Branding? My wedding? This lady is craaazy!

Bear with me

You know I’m the biggest advocate for weddings being about love and each other. And not a lot else. However, if you are spending (fill the gap) amount on your wedding, you want it to be right. You’re going to dress your bridesmaids anyway. And have flowers anyway. Likewise with napkins, tablecloths, wedding favours, etc. So your colour scheme is not adding anything onto your wedding, it’s simply bringing it together.

When you come to think of it, there is a lot that needs to coordinate on the day.

 

Flowers

When thinking of your wedding colour scheme, flowers probably spring to mind first. They are, after all, the main source of colour on the day. Whether your flowers determine your colour scheme or vice versa doesn’t matter. What’s important is that once your colours have been chosen, you stick with them throughout. Remember, if you’re having centrepiece flowers then the tableware has to come into consideration. And if you fancy bold flowers, you’ve got to consider how that might affect the overall ‘look’ of the day.

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Bridesmaids and Ushers

Probably one of the hardest things about organising a wedding is not only picking your bridesmaids and ushers, but dressing them too. Want to know what will make this easier? A colour scheme. Your groom wants blue suits, white shirts, and red ties. Without a colour scheme you might agree happily (seeing as he’s letting you pick – let’s face it – everything else). Then it comes to finding a dress for your gals. You’ve finally got them to agree on a dress they all love. But, the dress is bright fuchsia. It is going to look awful next to the usher’s ties. So you either tell your groom to change his choice, or you have to start again with the girls.

Disaster. Stressful. Easily Avoidable.

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Tableware

If you are going along the traditional and simplistic white/ivory theme for the tables, then you’ve not got much to worry about here. But if you want a pop of colour in the napkins, table runners, or even tablecloths themselves, then you have got to create a clear colour vision. There is no point spending your hard earned cash on stunning centrepiece flowers if they are going to be totally washed out in the photos because of your tablecloth choice. Or, worse, look completely dreadful because it all clashes.

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Wedding Colour Scheme Tips

Keep. It. Simple. Don’t over complicate it. Less is more. (etc). Start with one colour that you definitely want. Blush pink is always a good example because it can be matched to a lot of other colours without looking over the top. Then have a look at the ‘vibe’ of your day. Are you going for a rustic/boho vibe? Try greens, ivories, and maybe even a touch of burgundy. Having a glamorous celebration? Blush pink and gold is always a winner. Or maybe you’re a traditional gal with a modern edge, in which case why not try grey tones with your blush pink?

Personally, I’m not a huge fan of Pinterest. It’s an unpopular opinion, I know. But, Pinterest is fantastic for colour schemes. You can simply put (for example) ‘blush pink wedding colour palette’ in the search bar and there are always some fab colour palette suggestions.

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In any project, you always need a starting point. When talking about wedding colours, your starting point should be your base colour. As with most of your planning, take things one step at a time. Everything always seems more manageable in small pieces!

 

 

 

 

 

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Engagement Pressures

Engagement pressures… A few weeks ago I did a little youtube video about engagements. I thought I’d do a little post to carry on the conversation, or for anyone who missed the video. No matter where you are in your relationship, or not in one at all, I bet you’ve got an opinion on engagements. I certainly do! And it’s amazing how much my opinion has changed too.

I never used to think the length of time before getting engaged mattered, and I still don’t. But, I do think the amount a couple has experienced together does matter. Like, a lot. That’s just my opinion though, and (harking back to my last post) based on my own personal experience.

 

What Are Engagement Pressures?

Okay, so engagement pressures can be a whole number of things. Pressure from family or friends to ‘hurry up’. Which, by the way, can be felt by both the proposer and the proposee. Pressure from influences (such as social media) for the proposal to be a certain way. Or announced in a certain way. Pressure to get engaged when you might not want to… The list goes on. To be honest, everyone will have their own version or understanding of engagement pressures. And that can’t be avoided (unless you’re insanely lucky). You can find a way of dealing with them though, or even ignoring them altogether.

 

Why Do We Feel Them?

Simply? To satisfy others. Humans have this weird need to be liked, admired, accepted, whatever. And when we feel these pressures from other people, we’re feeling them because we want to be accepted (or whatever) by those people. Or to make those people happy. Whatever the exact reason is, the point is the same. We aren’t feeling them to gain anything for ourselves. So over a topic which really is about you, your significant other, and your feelings, why do we let ourselves succumb to pressures to satisfy the needs of others? Who knows! But we shouldn’t. You shouldn’t. Life will be easier if you don’t.

The same rule applies for your wedding, too. It’s your day, and the only thing that really matters is that you’re committing to spending the rest of your life with the person you love. I mean, that’s pretty bloomin’ special, right?! It doesn’t need to be about anything (or anyone) else. Quite often a wedding turns into a couple trying to prove something, or trying to create this ‘image’ which is more often than not completely untrue. Relax, enjoy it, and who cares what other people think?! Let. It. Go.

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Wedding Suppliers Summary

WEDDING SUPPLIERS SUMMARY

 

It’s a little late, I know, but there has been so much going on recently that I’m only just sitting down to really focus on a few blog posts! As you (probably) already know, I exhibited at a couple of wedding fayres in October & November (catchup with the blog posts about them here and here), and I met some super wonderful fellow wedding suppliers. Here are a couple I wanted to talk about, and (in case you missed it!) but video summary is at the end also!

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The Word Forest Organisation

The Word Forest Organisation is something that I have never come across before, but I seriously like the idea. There are a number of ways you can use their company, but essentially the end result being you have your very own ‘wedding forest’ planted. I mean, how fab is that?! Instead of asking for wedding gifts, you can ask your guests to buy you a tree on your selected plot of land in Kenya. 100 guests = 100 trees. AmAZing! Or you could gift the trees to your guests/bridesmaids/ushers etc as wedding favours, again, brilliant idea! And the Word Forest Organisation do it all for you (no travelling to Kenya required!). I honestly think this is such a fantastic company who are doing a wonderful thing, and they are also a registered charity which is just the icing on the cake really. Probably not everyone’s cup of tea, but a really unique idea if it’s your kind of thing.

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Wedding Magicians

I’m still undecided about wedding magicians… Are they the next big thing or are they suitable for only specific types of weddings? Not sure! I’d love to hear what you think though, especially if you’ve had/are having a magician at your wedding, or you’ve been to a wedding with one.

I did, however, come across a magician who I really liked and thought had a great act. He was called Dan Brazier and he performed a card trick on me which, I have to say, was pretty impressive. I thought he was dressed suitable and was well presented which is, of course, very important as any form of entertainer!

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The Illustrated Invitation

Lastly (I’m very excited about this one!) was a lady who was next to me at the Bath wedding fayre and her company was just to die for! Basically, they can sketch your wedding venue or church and then have the image printed on invitations/envelopes/save the dates, etc etc, and you can also purchase a framed illustration of your venue. I mean, wow! Not only do I love the idea, their style was gorgeous and simplistic which worked perfectly. The calligraphy is stunning across all their products and the drawings are in black and white which is all you need on stationary. I honestly love this company and I am 100% keeping them in mind for when I get married!

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Links

So there are my three favourite wedding suppliers from the two wedding fayres! Here are the links to their websites, and also the link to my video summarising them all.

The Word Forest Organisation

Ban Brazier

The Illustrated Invitation

 

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Millennial pink; 2018 wedding trends

MILLENNIAL PINK; 2018 WEDDING TRENDS

 

It’s that time of year when the 2018 wedding trend predictions are in full swing, and we are loving what is being talked about. I’m particularly loving the recent trend report from Coco weddings (which you can find here). Emma talks about the changes we can expect from drinks, flowers, and even a bit of influence from the land down under… But my fave is the pink influence gradually seeping back in.

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And we’re not just talking blush pinks here, there is a whole new pink known as ‘millennial pink’… What’s that? Well, that’s the tricky part. It’s sort of a grapefruit shade of apricotty salmon… Yum!(?) Millennial pink is not actually one specific colour, it’s a range of colours that fall in the pink category… Some suggest this millennial pink trend started with the first ‘rose gold’ iPhone, which – let’s face it – is hardly rose gold. But, wherever it came from it looks like it’s here to stay for 2018!

 

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I guess they’ve termed it millennial pink because all us ‘millennials’ are now the crucial influence on upcoming trends… even wedding trends which is super scary.

*The millennial generation is the generation of children born between 1982 and 2002*

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YOUR THOUGHTS

So, millennial pink… what are we thinking? Leave a comment below or send a message on facebook with your thoughts on this upcoming trend. And maybe you have some 2018 wedding trend predictions of your own?

 

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