A question I’m sure you’re all dying to know the answer to… Truth is, I absolutely love knowing what people have in their handbags/work bags… Is that weird? Anyway, I thought – since I love others doing this so much – I’d write a what’s in my work bag post!
I haven’t written much over the past couple of weeks, so wanted to write something fun & lighthearted today (to help get back into it more than anything else).
So, seriously, what’s in my work bag?
I hate packing my work bag before work, so I try and keep it as simple as possible (as well as not taking too much out of it). Here we go…
My diary. I am stationery obsessed, and a yearly diary is a must have Christmas present for me. In recent years I’ve got the ‘Perfect Planner’ from the Busy B online stationery shop (aka the place of dreams). Although for 2020 I’m thinking about mixing it up, and going for one of their other diaries… #rivetingstuff
Notebooks. My notebooks of choice tend to vary depending on where I’m going/what I’m doing. But this is my blogging/business notebook and I love it. I’d also be totally lost without it as I write all my ideas/plans/goals/etc etc in there.
Lipsticks, naturally. I mean, you’ve always got to have one handy, right!?
Pencil case. Really, I’m still 11 at heart… I bloody love a pencil case! Highlighters, pencils, and an assortment of different colours pens are all must-haves for my work bag.
Perfume – always. Work days are long and I always like being able to freshen up if I need to (especially when I have client meetings!).
I also have various keys, plasters, pain relief, wet wipes, tea bags (herbal, obvs), plus snacks/lunch/water (which always weighs my bag down…). Somehow I never use everything in one given day, but always keep it all with me because you just never know!
Whilst I get caught up on blogging, have a read of some of my previous autumnal posts. May as well make the most of autumn whilst it’s here! And I shall see you soon with some more fascinating blog content…..!
Royal William Yard & Saltram House… I’m lucky enough to live in such a gorgeous part of the world, and I love finding new things to do/ideas for days out in the area. And I thought, why not share some on the blog?! Obviously if you’re not local to Devon, this post might not be as helpful to you. BUT, it might just inspire you to come down for a holiday!
Royal William Yard is one of my favourite places to go for food/drinks (and probably the only part of Plymouth I actually like…). We always have such a lovely time down there, and our day out at the end of September was no exception.
We also visited Saltram House which is just outside Plymouth. Somewhere I’d never been to properly before but what a hidden gem it is! So here is a short overview and a few pics of both…
Royal William Yard – Wagamamas & Cocktails
We almost always go to Wagamamas when we go to Royal William Yard – I mean, it’d be rude not to, wouldn’t it?! I love the food there, and they are sooo good with allergies which is such a blessing!
We had a main each plus a couple of sides. And their cocktails are so inventive too – I went for the Jasmine Bellini and it was wonderful.
You absolutely must have a stroll around (even if it’s terribly windy!!) if you visit. The buildings are amazing, and I think they’re doing up another section which is exciting! We also visited Seco Lounge, and although didn’t stop in this time, I highly recommend Le Vignoble.
After Royal William Yard, we headed out to Saltram House as it is somewhere we’d never been before and only about 20 mins from central Plymouth. The gardens/woodland there are enormous – so much exploring to be done! We of course got some autumnal pics before heading inside…
You could definitely make a whole day of it at Saltram House, but we just went for a quick afternoon stroll and popped inside too. The house itself is stunning, and everything inside is original to when the family actually lived in it. Pretty cool – and had us dreaming about one day living in a house as beautiful!
(I didn’t take many pictures inside out of fear of being rude!).
I’ll hopefully make a few more of these posts, as and when we do interesting things in Devon worth sharing with you! So if you’re in Devon and at a loose end, remember to have a check of my blog to see if I’ve written anything new!
And for something a bit more wedding-related, check out my last post.
Well we couldn’t start October off without some autumn faves now could we?! Today I thought I’d write about a few items I’ve been using a lot over the past couple of weeks. Not necessarily ‘autumnal’ items, but we’ll go with it…
Autumn Faves – Beauty/Bath
First off, the shampoo that dreams are made of…! I change up my shampoo & conditioner quite frequently, and always have a couple on the go. But when the weather starts to get a bit colder I find my hair needs something to give it a bit more moisture. Enter… Coconut milk!
And in autumn, who doesn’t love a bath? (I bloody love a bath). These bath tea bags are from a gift shop in my town, but I think you can find them (or certainly ones similar) pretty much anywhere. I love a bath bomb too, but find these are more subtle but really leave your skin smelling glorious afterwards.
And, something I haven’t actually used yet because it’s too darn pretty… This amazing soap cupcake that I bought at the Yorkshire Soap Company in Harrogate (check out my Harrogate recap post to learn more). Surely I’m not the only one who thinks it looks too good to use?!
Home & Office
Also from the Yorkshire Soap Co is this amazing candle that I genuinely can’t get enough of. I wanted an autumnal smell and the lady in the shop suggested this one. What a dream it is! Can’t have autumn without a few new candles now, can you?
Finally, the thing that I don’t think I could live without… My giant planner! I bought this at the end of August so I could get a bit more organised with my blog posts & content. It has been a miracle, and keeps me totally on track. Plus, I am an actual stationery geek so any excuse to buy something new!
So there you have a few of my autumn faves. And for more autumnal vibes, check out my last twoposts! Next up on the blog, it’s back to weddings with some wedding decor inspiration that I’m having at my own wedding.
In my last post, I talked through my autumnal outfit staples. Now for another favourite topic of mine… Home decor inspo!
Autumnal Home Decor Inspo
I’m not overly keen on the garish halloween-type decorations, but I do love a few simple touches to make the house feel more cosy. Especially as we don’t have a fireplace, which I think make all the difference to a cosy living room!
Candles & Fairy lights – Absolute essentials in my house. I have too many tea lights to admit and I hang fairy lights wherever I can (including off dressers and around picture frames…). But the living room feels instantly more cosy when everything is on, and I L-O-V-E it. Nothing like coming home from a long day, lighting some candles, putting pjs on, and eating ice-cream for dinner (yes, I know that’s not a terribly ‘adult’ thing to have for dinner…).
Pumpkins & mini squash – I am obsessed, especially with mini squash. You can use them to decorate your home without it being OTT. And if you love the OTT autumn home decor inspo then they just enhance the overall look! You can pick them up in most supermarkets or greengrocers – I can’t get enough of them!
That’s it for my getting cosy for autumn & home decor inspo. But my next post is going to be all about some autumn faves, so keep your eyes peeled for that!
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If getting cosy for autumn is your thing, then stick around because you’re going to love what’s coming… From autumn outfit staples to home decor touch-ups, this is my recipe for autumnal cosiness!
Autumn Outfit Staples
I go on about it a lot (okay, maybe too much…) but autumn fashion is my absolute favourite. It’s cold enough that wearing boots & tights is acceptable, but not so cold that you have to bundle up so much that fashion goes out of the window.
So, what are my autumn outfit must-haves?
Black ankle boots – I mean, how can you not?! Versitile & super cute, they are a must-have for autumn (or in my case all year round!). I’m also very fond of my knee-high boots too, which can turn a simple outfit into something a tad more fancy (plus I seriously need the leg-lengthening effect!).
Next up, oversized scarves – who doesn’t love an oversized scarf (or several)?! I find they finish off an outfit perfectly, especially in the colder months. Although, my easy-to-tangle locks don’t get on so well with scarves, so it’s always a ‘hair-up’ day for me when wearing one.
Lastly, a stylish long coat – Of course, equally as useful in the winter, but more fashionable in autumn when you can leave it undone and show off your (hopefully!) well-put-together outfit underneath. Plus, they make you feel pretty suave, don’t they?!
Whilst I’m here, you also can’t go wrong with a patterned or brightly coloured skirt. I happen to be a sucker for them (can you tell…?).
So I thought I’d write a little more personal post today, and explain what’s been going on in my world recently… Navigating the early to mid twenties is something I’ve found surprisingly difficult. Did anyone else just assume that everything got easier once you were officially an adult? Because I definitely did, and I was definitely wrong. It’s not been an overly easy time and I hope this post might help others who could be going through the same thing.
24 is here, and I can only describe the earlier part of this year as a bit of a quater-life-crisis. We all know about the mid-life crisis, but no-one really talks about the earlier years: namely your early to mid twenties. Perhaps it’s just a part of growing into adulthood, and something everyone goes through. But anyway, it’s nice to shed a bit of light on the subject nonetheless. For a while I was really struggling with the whole topic of ‘the future’. I know where I want to get to, but how on earth am I going to achieve it? How do I get from here to there? Will I ever make it? You get the idea… And part of that meant falling out of love with most things, especially in a work sense. I wondered about a total career change numerous times, but mostly I just wanted to run away to a remote cabin by the lake (with Euan, obvs) and hide away from the world.
Maybe I should get into travel blogging… (jokes, although how fun would that be!).
I’ve not been amazing at talking about it either, not even to Euan. Which I think is mostly down to the fact I can’t actually put it into words, or certainly not whole sentences. I guess overwhelmed is probably the most accurate way of describing it, but it goes a whole lot deeper than that. Also, I’m very good at beating myself up over the tiniest thing. So in a slightly more fragile state than normal you can but guess how unhelpful that trait has been…
Basically – in short – I spent a good few months feeling like a total failure, for no reason other than it’s what I kept telling myself. (Yes, Euan, I did just manage to admit that I’m my worst enemy). I knew deep down that I was actually doing fine and actually in a really good place. But despite knowing that, the doubt still came and still felt totally overwhelming when it did. I would get stuck in a place which I found incredibly hard to pull myself out of. A lot of crying and soooo much self-doubt. It makes you want to give up everything and start over again, and feels like you’ve ruined your life somehow. When I managed to get out of one of these moods, I’d look back and think how utterly ridiculous it was to have thought all of those things. But that somehow doesn’t seem to make it any easier at the time.
I guess it’s largely to do with the fact that the decisions I make now really are starting to shape and impact my future and the direction I take my life in. And I think this is pretty common for people in their ‘early to mid twenties’, and probably beyond too. The older you get, the harder it is to have freedom in a lot of ways. If I want to make something of my life, if I want to have a thriving future, I have to work towards that now. And in my moments of despair it often felt like I wasn’t achieving that and so need to just give up.
It’s not something that’s always easy to talk about, but the few times I have had conversations about it I’ve felt sooooo much better afterwards. I’d be surprised if there’s a single person on this planet who didn’t spend large portions of their 20s feeling like this. Which I found to be a huge comfort. You’re not weird. You’re not a failure. You’re not destined for disaster. In actual fact, you’re just human.
Some Top Tips
To be completely honest, I don’t think there’s any ‘quick fix’ for something like this. But if you’re navigating your early to mid twenties (or any age for that matter!) and feel like you’re having a bit of a quarter-life-crisis, here are a couple of tips that have helped me:
Firstly, something that really really helped me was weirdly enough a personality test. I actually took it just to calm myself down, but when I got the results and they described my personality to a T it made me realise that I am who I am and the reason I think/behave in certain ways is all part of my personality. Not because I’m broken or weird, but because that’s just who I am. Even just answering the questions properly & honestly opened my eyes to a lot about myself. It probably won’t work for everyone, but here is the link if you fancy giving it a go.
Talk about it. It’s so easy to pretend everything is fine, especially when other people around you assume that everything is fine. But keeping it all to yourself is detrimental. Trust me!
Don’t compare your life or achievements to others. Whether that’s your friends or – like me – people (‘proper’ adults) who have made it already, it’s just not healthy and makes everything worse. Everyone is walking down their own path, and there is no right or wrong way to do life. So just do you!
And closely linked with the above, don’t keeping focussing on what you think you should be doing. Like I said, there’s no right or wrong way to do life so there’s no should or shouldn’t either. (Well, to a point. I mean you shouldn’t break the law for example…).
Lastly, figure out what you want and keep going. Let your mind wander, put yourself out there, and invest in yourself if you need to. Even on the bad days, keep pushing and don’t give up because if you stay on the right path and are determined, you’ll get to where you want to go.
I hope that if you’re having a hard time, this post has helped a bit. Talking about it has definitely helped the process for me, just to get my head around it for the most part. And if you’re going through something similar and want to talk, I’m just on the other end of email or Instagram for a chat! And this isn’t necessarily felt by people in their ‘early to mid twenties’, it just so happens that it is the most common time for a quarter-life crisis, and it’s also the age category I fall in.
And for something a little lighter, take a look at my last post.