‘All this, just for one day’ – Let’s Discuss…

Okay, so as a bride-to-be how many times has ‘all this, just for one day’ been said to you? Have you even thought it yourself? I have already had so many people accost me with questions about it ‘just being for one day’. Well, people, I’m about to take you on a journey of discovery.

Newsflash! It’s not just about one day.

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All this, just for one day? Part 1…

Firstly, it’s not ‘just a day’. It’s the foundation for your marriage. The day it all started. A celebration of your love. A chance for you to show the people around you how much they mean to you, how much you mean to them, and how much you (as a couple) mean to each other. It’s pretty symbolic.

Not to mention the family & friends reunion side of it. Tell me another instance where you get to sit in a room with all the most important people in your life. In one place. Altogether. For a happy occasion. You can’t? That’s because there isn’t one.

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All this, just for one day? Part 2…

Secondly, why wouldn’t you want an excuse to dress up in the best and most expensive clothing you can afford, drink amazing wine, eat wonderful food, and dance the night away? And whilst smiling the entire time! That sounds like the perfect day. What’s not to love?!

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All this, just for one day? Part 3…

 

Seriously though, it really isn’t just about that one day. Thirdly, and most importantly, it’s about the journey.

It’s about that indescribable feeling of being proposed to, and the tears of excitement and happiness as you share the news with family & friends.

It’s about deciding who you want to stand beside you on the day, and watching their expression as you tell them.

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It’s about working with your partner and making decisions about your day which reflect you as a couple, and learning more about each other as you do so.

It’s about listening to and respecting your partner’s thoughts & visions for your day and coming to conclusions that you are both happy with.

It’s about wedding dress shopping with your mum and girl-friends, drinking bubbles and squealing for no particular reason, just because.

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It’s about the days out with you girls/boys and giving them a chance to show you how much you mean to them.

It’s about sharing your excitement with your parents, and watching how happy it makes them to see you so elevated.

It’s about all of those little things in the build up. All of the decisions you make because of the wedding. All the conversations you have and all the memories you make along the way.

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So, no, it’s not all for just one day.

 

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Engagement Pressures

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Engagement pressures… A few weeks ago I did a little youtube video about engagements. I thought I’d do a little post to carry on the conversation, or for anyone who missed the video. No matter where you are in your relationship, or not in one at all, I bet you’ve got an opinion on engagements. I certainly do! And it’s amazing how much my opinion has changed too.

I never used to think the length of time before getting engaged mattered, and I still don’t. But, I do think the amount a couple has experienced together does matter. Like, a lot. That’s just my opinion though, and (harking back to my last post) based on my own personal experience.

 

What Are Engagement Pressures?

Okay, so engagement pressures can be a whole number of things. Pressure from family or friends to ‘hurry up’. Which, by the way, can be felt by both the proposer and the proposee. Pressure from influences (such as social media) for the proposal to be a certain way. Or announced in a certain way. Pressure to get engaged when you might not want to… The list goes on. To be honest, everyone will have their own version or understanding of engagement pressures. And that can’t be avoided (unless you’re insanely lucky). You can find a way of dealing with them though, or even ignoring them altogether.

 

Why Do We Feel Them?

Simply? To satisfy others. Humans have this weird need to be liked, admired, accepted, whatever. And when we feel these pressures from other people, we’re feeling them because we want to be accepted (or whatever) by those people. Or to make those people happy. Whatever the exact reason is, the point is the same. We aren’t feeling them to gain anything for ourselves. So over a topic which really is about you, your significant other, and your feelings, why do we let ourselves succumb to pressures to satisfy the needs of others? Who knows! But we shouldn’t. You shouldn’t. Life will be easier if you don’t.

The same rule applies for your wedding, too. It’s your day, and the only thing that really matters is that you’re committing to spending the rest of your life with the person you love. I mean, that’s pretty bloomin’ special, right?! It doesn’t need to be about anything (or anyone) else. Quite often a wedding turns into a couple trying to prove something, or trying to create this ‘image’ which is more often than not completely untrue. Relax, enjoy it, and who cares what other people think?! Let. It. Go.

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