Is it really all just for ‘one day’?

Is it really all just for ‘one day’?

Okay, so as a bride-to-be how many times has ‘all this, just for one day’ been said to you? Have you even thought it yourself? I have already had so many people accost me with questions about it ‘just being for one day’. Well, people, I’m about to take you on a journey of discovery.

Newsflash! It’s not just about one day.

Just for one day? Part 1…

Firstly, it’s not ‘just a day’. It’s the foundation for your marriage. The day it all started. A celebration of your love. A chance for you to show the people around you how much they mean to you, how much you mean to them, and how much you (as a couple) mean to each other. It’s pretty symbolic.

Not to mention the family & friends reunion side of it. Tell me another instance where you get to sit in a room with all the most important people in your life. In one place. Altogether. For a happy occasion. You can’t? That’s because there isn’t one.

Just for one day? Part 2…

Secondly, why wouldn’t you want an excuse to dress up in the best and most expensive clothing you can afford, drink amazing wine, eat wonderful food, and dance the night away? And whilst smiling the entire time! That sounds like the perfect day. What’s not to love?!

Just for one day? Part 3…

Seriously though, it really isn’t just about that one day. Thirdly, and most importantly, it’s about the journey.

It’s about that indescribable feeling of being proposed to, and the tears of excitement and happiness as you share the news with family & friends.

It’s about deciding who you want to stand beside you on the day, and watching their expression as you tell them.

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It’s about working with your partner and making decisions about your day which reflect you as a couple, and learning more about each other as you do so.

It’s about listening to and respecting your partner’s thoughts & visions for your day and coming to conclusions that you are both happy with.

It’s about wedding dress shopping with your mum and girl-friends, drinking bubbles and squealing for no particular reason, just because.

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It’s about the days out with you girls/boys and giving them a chance to show you how much you mean to them.

It’s about sharing your excitement with your parents, and watching how happy it makes them to see you so elevated.

It’s about all of those little things in the build up. All of the decisions you make because of the wedding. All the conversations you have and all the memories you make along the way.

So, no, it’s not all for just one day.

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2018… So Far and Looking Forward

2018… So Far and Looking Forward

Somehow, 2018 so far has been a completely crazy busy year where I also feel like nothing has happened. Does anyone else feel like that? I think it’s one of those times where because so much is happening continuously, your brain adjusts to the ‘busy-ness’, and gets used to it. Therefore, you feel like nothing is happening. Even though you’re surrounded by stuff happening, like, constantly. Does that make sense? Probably not, knowing me.

 

2018 So Far

In January, I took on loads more work. I’ve at least tripled my work load, and it’s great. I love to be busy and there is nothing I hate more than being bored/having nothing to do. Seriously, no thank you! I’d rather work 7-days a week than work for 5 and be bored for 2. My increased workload is probably why I feel like nothing has happened this year, because it’s mostly work. When, actually, loads has happened.

Because I’ve got a lot more work on, I’ve not had as much time to dedicate to blogging & vlogging. This has been a real shame, but I wanted to allow myself time to adjust to having tons more work. Mostly my work is from home and therefore self-motivated, which works incredibly well for me, but it can also be hard. Since January, I’ve been working on my routine and getting used to my new work schedule. Plus, I’ve got other personal development projects on the side which I also need to find time for.

Now, though, I’ve sorted a routine and I’m ready to get back to the ‘work things’ I love doing but haven’t had time for (i.e. my blog and my youtube videos). I’ve already got some projects lined up to conquer this year, plus there is – of course – the summer wedding season, which is just around the corner!(!!!!).

 

The Rest of 2018

I’m a very methodical person and I like to have everything meticulously planned. Of course, this doesn’t always work out, but I do still think it’s a good foundation to have. I like to chop whole years up into manageable sections (metaphorically, duh), which is why my current job is fantastic for my character. Because the first 4 months and last 3 months of the year are dedicated to smaller elopement weddings, it means the big (stressful) wedding season spans across the middle 5 months. This automatically gives me 3 sections to work with. Obviously, this ‘section’ malarky won’t work for everyone, but I personally find it really beneficial.

As I said, since January I’ve been getting used to my new 2018 routine and setting myself small daily/weekly goals which have really helped. At the beginning of March, I vowed to myself my next goal would be to up my visits to the gym. It took a week and a half but I  finally managed it. My goals for the rest of March and the whole of April (i.e. the time left before the 2018 summer wedding season) are to…

  1. Visit Switzerland for the first time!
  2. Finish the course I’m currently doing.
  3. Start blogging more. I’m aiming for a blog post to go up every 3 days.
  4. Start making videos again. I’d like to do one a week, but we will see. I don’t want to be making videos because I feel I ‘have’ to. I only want to make them when I feel I have something I’d like to share/discuss etc.
  5. Keep up with the gym-going.
  6. Drink.More.Water.

When the summer season hits, things get a little craaazy (which is the main reason I want to have finished my course by then). I’ll endeavour to keep up with the blogging & videos, but not be too hard on myself if I don’t always manage it. The gym & the water, however, I’m going to be more strict about. Other things I’ll be focussing on during the summer season (un-work related)…

  1. Turning 23 and not getting upset about it. I mean, I’ll definitely be turning 23 but we’ll see about the upset bit… #byebyeearly20s
  2. Making the most of any weekends where I don’t have weddings. Last summer was insanely crazy and I only had 2/3 weekends off in the 5 months. This year, though, the weddings are spaced out more evenly and for May & June I have quite a few more weekends off than last year! #hellobeachdays
  3. Attending friends’ weddings! (As a guest!)
  4. Enjoying not having to pay the heating bill (it’s the little things).
  5. Going on mini-breaks to Bath & Edinburgh.
  6. Hosting at least one drinks party with friends.
  7. Growing in confidence at work (okay, soz, one work thing!).

And, finally, I have two goals for after the wedding season (so far; this list will most definitely increase throughout the year)…

  1. Starting a new business finance course.
  2. Visiting somewhere else new/going on holiday (not sure when/where though!).

I love hearing about other peoples goals/ambitions/hopes for the year ahead, so please do get in touch if you’ve got anything you want to share!

Goal Setting

Goal Setting

I started this year with a fresh mind and healthier attitude than ever before. I am determined to make every day great (but to also not be too hard on myself if I don’t quite manage it). Goal setting is something I’ve actually learned through my job, and it applies to your work and your personal life.

I’ve always found setting myself goals easy. I do it all the time. But actually managing, evaluating, and measuring these goals is another thing entirely. It’s all very well setting yourself a goal, anyone can do that. But how do you know when you’ve reached your goal? Or what if you’re falling behind? Is your goal actually realistic and achievable?

 

Getting Started

Sit down with a notebook and pen. Pick a goal (or several) and write it down. Then, get specific. Why have you set yourself this goal? What does this goal involve? Who does this goal involve? Ask yourself in-depth questions, and really pull apart exactly what this goal of yours is.

Once you’ve done that, you’ll have an even clearer idea about where you want to get to and why. You can then set yourself a time limit, evaluate the achievability of the goal, and decide how you are going to measure your progress.

Don’t just stop with one goal either. Keep going! Every time you think of something you’d like to achieve, write it down. Even if you don’t do the evaluation malarkey straight away, at least it’s there in black and white for you to come back to. I would definitely forget most of my goals if I didn’t write them down. They come and go in waves, and sometimes you have a random urge to achieve something that’s completely unrelated to your current life and ventures. Ask yourself why you had that sudden urge to achieve that certain thing. It is amazing how much more you can learn about yourself from just taking the time to think.

 

Measuring the goal

Set yourself benchmarks for checking in on your progress. The benchmarks will be different for each goal. I’ve set myself some goals which require daily and weekly checks, and others which are a matter of months (and even years!). Setting yourself these time frames means you are constantly keeping on top of what you want to achieve. If something needs to be evaluated weekly, but you don’t look back over it for 4 months, then you may not have progressed at all and simply wasted 4 months!

This section will make the most sense when you’ve finished the first. So get cracking mate-y!

 

Making a change, one step at a time

I’ve found that a lot of people coast through life without a great deal of direction. This is especially apparent with people in their 20’s who aren’t really sure what they want to do with their lives. That’s normal, and the whole point of being young is discovering stuff. But you also want all your years (whether you’ve got 80 left or 10 left) to count. These goals don’t have to be drastic life-changing things. They can be the smallest and most insignificant of things. But they are still important. For example, one of my goals is to drink 2 litres of water a day. I still went through the motions of evaluating this goal, even though it seemed stupid at first. And it was so helpful.

Use these goal setting techniques to better yourself and your life. The only person getting in the way of what you want to achieve is you. And the more you tell yourself that isn’t the case then the more you’ll end up going nowhere. Change doesn’t happen overnight, and it doesn’t happen with minimal effort.

Keep focused. Stay motivated. You’ll get there.

 


Whilst we’re on these motivational and personal lines, have a read of my happiness blog post (if you missed it).

Who is Lila Bailey?

Who is Lila Bailey?

Good question! And one I’ve been asked a lot recently. So who actually is Lila Bailey? Well, not a real person for a start. ‘Lila’ and ‘Bailey’ are both names which I selected pretty carefully when I was deciding on a business name. But I’ve realised that they both need a bit of explaining!

 

Who is Lila?

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Lila (pronounced L-ill-a, not L-eye-la) is one of my middle names. I’ve always preferred Lila to Bethany (although I’m sure that wouldn’t be the case if my given name was Lila). But the significance of Lila to my business goes a lot deeper. So, if you’ve read my about page then you’ll know that wedding dresses are a huge passion of mine. One day I hope that ‘Lila Bailey’ will be a wedding dress brand, but we’ll see… Anyway, my parents gave me the name Lila because the lady who designed and made my mother’s wedding dress in the 90s was called Lila (plus it’s a super pretty name). I mean, that’s pretty meant to be. Before I even started making any official plans for my business, I knew I wanted Lila in the name somehow. So that’s Lila!

 

Who is Bailey?

who is lila bailey blog post grandma ‘Bailey’ is my paternal grandmother’s maiden name. She was an opera singer back in the day, and was a big influence throughout my childhood. As well as weddings, music is a huge part of my life. Particularly singing. And my grandma gave me my ability to sing, and also taught me to play piano. She was very special to me, and when I was in the early stages of figuring my business out, she sadly died. I knew I wanted to honour her, but not through ‘Teague’ (her married name) as she had her career as an opera singer before she was married. So her maiden name seemed much more fitting.

It also meant that my business name was not my name as I have never wanted that, but it still held close connections to me. And actually I feel that Lila Bailey is a super special name as it stands for so much, and has a lot more meaning than if I’d just used my own name.

Festive Decorating at Lila Bailey HQ

Festive Decorating at Lila Bailey HQ

FESTIVE DECORATING AT LILA BAILEY HQ

It’s the most wonderful time of the year… (It really really is!). I absolutely love Christmas (just in case you hadn’t noticed). Not just Christmas Day either, I love the whole build up from late November right through to celebrating New Year and all the festivities in between. One of the first things I do to feel christmassy is stick a rocking Christmas playlist on and decorate! Last year was our very first Christmas in our own home which made it was super super special, but this year is even better because we’ve finally got our flat pretty much how we want it (more to come on that later…), so it feels even more like home.

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Festive decorating is an all-day event, starting with purchasing & decorating the Christmas tree (video below), followed by decorating the rest of the house! Because of our living room & kitchen colour schemes, I stick with a simple ‘red & white’ theme for the tree as it ties the whole room together as one.

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I don’t like to go OTT with Christmas decor as there is a fine line between beautifully festive and superbly tacky… I stick with a few go-to additions, including (a lot of) festive bunting, christmas blankets (as sofa accessories, naturally), jars of candy canes, handmade decorative stockings, ornamental hanging things (the technical term…), and lots (and lots) of candles. There is always a place for a small amount of tinsel (on the television, for example) but I don’t like too much as I do think it can really cheapen the look of a room.

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As I work from home, making sure my house is festively decorated is an essential part of my ability to focus during this period… (It is, honest!).

 

The Finishing Touch

To me, it’s just not Christmas without a wreath on the front door! Luckily, one of my very good friends happens to be a florist (handy) and runs Christmas wreath making workshops throughout early December. This year her & I had a one-to-one wreath making (and coffee drinking, gossiping) session and this was the result!

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It brightens up the hallway and brings a bit of festive cheer as soon as you walk through the door!

 

Links

Below is our Christmas tree expedition in video form, and also a link to Kat’s (florist friend) beautiful website…

 

Milli Fleur

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