Okay, so as a bride-to-be how many times has ‘all this, just for one day’ been said to you? Have you even thought it yourself? I have already had so many people accost me with questions about it ‘just being for one day’. Well, people, I’m about to take you on a journey of discovery.
Newsflash! It’s not just about one day.
Just for one day? Part 1…
Firstly, it’s not ‘just a day’. It’s the foundation for your marriage. The day it all started. A celebration of your love. A chance for you to show the people around you how much they mean to you, how much you mean to them, and how much you (as a couple) mean to each other. It’s pretty symbolic.
Not to mention the family & friends reunion side of it. Tell me another instance where you get to sit in a room with all the most important people in your life. In one place. Altogether. For a happy occasion. You can’t? That’s because there isn’t one.
Just for one day? Part 2…
Secondly, why wouldn’t you want an excuse to dress up in the best and most expensive clothing you can afford, drink amazing wine, eat wonderful food, and dance the night away? And whilst smiling the entire time! That sounds like the perfect day. What’s not to love?!
Just for one day? Part 3…
Seriously though, it really isn’t just about that one day. Thirdly, and most importantly, it’s about the journey.
It’s about that indescribable feeling of being proposed to, and the tears of excitement and happiness as you share the news with family & friends.
It’s about deciding who you want to stand beside you on the day, and watching their expression as you tell them.
It’s about working with your partner and making decisions about your day which reflect you as a couple, and learning more about each other as you do so.
It’s about listening to and respecting your partner’s thoughts & visions for your day and coming to conclusions that you are both happy with.
It’s about wedding dress shopping with your mum and girl-friends, drinking bubbles and squealing for no particular reason, just because.
It’s about the days out with you girls/boys and giving them a chance to show you how much you mean to them.
It’s about sharing your excitement with your parents, and watching how happy it makes them to see you so elevated.
It’s about all of those little things in the build up. All of the decisions you make because of the wedding. All the conversations you have and all the memories you make along the way.
Good question! And one I’ve been asked a lot recently. So who actually is Lila Bailey? Well, not a real person for a start. ‘Lila’ and ‘Bailey’ are both names which I selected pretty carefully when I was deciding on a business name. But I’ve realised that they both need a bit of explaining!
Who is Lila?
Lila (pronounced L-ill-a, not L-eye-la) is one of my middle names. I’ve always preferred Lila to Bethany (although I’m sure that wouldn’t be the case if my given name was Lila). But the significance of Lila to my business goes a lot deeper. So, if you’ve read my about page then you’ll know that wedding dresses are a huge passion of mine. One day I hope that ‘Lila Bailey’ will be a wedding dress brand, but we’ll see… Anyway, my parents gave me the name Lila because the lady who designed and made my mother’s wedding dress in the 90s was called Lila (plus it’s a super pretty name). I mean, that’s pretty meant to be. Before I even started making any official plans for my business, I knew I wanted Lila in the name somehow. So that’s Lila!
Who is Bailey?
‘Bailey’ is my paternal grandmother’s maiden name. She was an opera singer back in the day, and was a big influence throughout my childhood. As well as weddings, music is a huge part of my life. Particularly singing. And my grandma gave me my ability to sing, and also taught me to play piano. She was very special to me, and when I was in the early stages of figuring my business out, she sadly died. I knew I wanted to honour her, but not through ‘Teague’ (her married name) as she had her career as an opera singer before she was married. So her maiden name seemed much more fitting.
It also meant that my business name was not my name as I have never wanted that, but it still held close connections to me. And actually I feel that Lila Bailey is a super special name as it stands for so much, and has a lot more meaning than if I’d just used my own name.
Anyone who is familiar with my instagram accounts will know that Euan & I bought and moved into our first home together back in 2016 (omg, how was it so long ago?!). Anyway, our flat was a total blank canvas (cream walls, cream carpet, etc) which was absolutely perfect. We could move in straight away, be perfectly happy, and then put our own stamp on it as we went along.
Moving in day featuring my family doggo, Nutmeg!
It took us a whole year of waiting to finally get our flat, which meant we (I) had had plenty of time to buy lots of lovely things for our new home. The curtains were already there and, massively coincidentally, matched our (hand-me-down Laura Ashley) sofas perfectly! My much coveted Welsh dresser was my 21st birthday present from my parents, and the infamous painting of squiggles was a 21st birthday present from Euan (I am a very lucky young lady).
It feels so weird looking back at these pictures as the room has changed so much! I never realised how much I loved home decor & interiors until I had my own home, but then again, why would I?!
First thing on the list was to clean the carpets and buy a rug. Naturally as the months went on we accumulated decor items and cushions (I never stop needing decor items and cushions, whatever Euan might think…).
Above is a picture from Christmas 2016. We hadn’t done any decorating just yet, but I had planned what I wanted. A Union Jack rug was on the agenda for the living room, but this fluffy rug was a Christmas present for my office which got put into the lounge until further notice…
I knew I wanted to stick to blue & white, so we went for a striped feature wall on the longest side. The wallpaper is the Ralph Lauren Mapleton Stripe Wallpaper, Porcelain (I will link it below) and we matched the blue on the other wall to the thin stripe to blend it all together well.
Below is a picture of the finished living room (Union Jack rug and all) from Christmas 2017. I haven’t managed to take a pic this side of Christmas (aka minus the Christmas decs), but you get the idea!
We also updated our kitchen… Stayed tuned for a post on that soon!
I hope you had the most wonderful Christmas Day! Now for that perfect period between Christmas and New Year where you have the best excuse to do absolutely nothing… Blissful! I’ve used this time to collect together a few of my very own office essentials, some old and some new!
Working from home can be quite tricky, especially at this time of year when everyone else is officially off work and not doing much. I absolutely adore my office now (had a bit of a re-shuffle recently!) which makes all the difference when trying to motivate myself, but there are also a few handy items to help with organisation and general state of mind!
Firstly, although not exactly a physical thing, my general workspace has to be neat, tidy, and organised, with everything I need for the day within reach. I find I get distracted and frustrated so easily when my surroundings are cluttered, so before I start any working day I always have a bit of a tidy-up to make sure my motivation stays strong. I also love to have photos and pictures in my office (and lots of them!). Especially as it’s a ‘home office’, I think it’s so important for the space to really feel like mine, and means it’s a space that I actually want to be in!
COFFEE! I always start my day with a cup (sometimes two…) of coffee. It sets me up for the day and keeps me perky! Throughout the day I try to stay hydrated with water, but (I confess) it’s mostly with cups of peppermint tea… that counts as water intake, right? I have always got some form of notepad by my side as well. I have different notebooks for different tasks so I always know where to look if I’m trying to find something, and this one above is a new addition (an early Christmas present) which I have allocated to my gin-tasting notes!
Organisation is key! Which is where my diary comes in very handy. I got two brand new diaries for 2018 and I love them both! It’s a good excuse to separate my work from my home life, so I’ve got one for each. I have to actively remember to write every appointment/meeting etc down but I always make sure I do so that they’re all in one place and can’t be forgotten. And what is an office without a trusty computer? In this century, not an office at all! It’s quite scary how much we depend on these machines, but it is safe to say I would get absolutely nowhere without my laptop.
And lastly, reading material! I am never without a good selection of (tasteful!) magazines and informative books by my side. I love anything creative/passionate/wedding stuff/business advice etc to have a flick through whilst having a break for a cup of tea or lunch. I also use reading material as inspiration for my dress sketches in my down-time, so it’s important for me to have lots of material handy. This book is one I am particularly excited about. I’ve had a scan through it before, but I wanted a copy of my own which, thanks to my generous brother, I now have. I am so stupidly excited to read this, and work through it as my business grows. This is mostly definitely the newest addition to my absolute office essentials!
We’re now into those last few days where feeling festive is acceptable… So take a look at my festive blog posts here and here before it’s too late to be christmassy!
It’s the most wonderful time of the year… (It really really is!). I absolutely love Christmas (just in case you hadn’t noticed). Not just Christmas Day either, I love the whole build up from late November right through to celebrating New Year and all the festivities in between. One of the first things I do to feel christmassy is stick a rocking Christmas playlist on and decorate! Last year was our very first Christmas in our own home which made it was super super special, but this year is even better because we’ve finally got our flat pretty much how we want it (more to come on that later…), so it feels even more like home.
Festive decorating is an all-day event, starting with purchasing & decorating the Christmas tree (video below), followed by decorating the rest of the house! Because of our living room & kitchen colour schemes, I stick with a simple ‘red & white’ theme for the tree as it ties the whole room together as one.
I don’t like to go OTT with Christmas decor as there is a fine line between beautifully festive and superbly tacky… I stick with a few go-to additions, including (a lot of) festive bunting, christmas blankets (as sofa accessories, naturally), jars of candy canes, handmade decorative stockings, ornamental hanging things (the technical term…), and lots (and lots) of candles. There is always a place for a small amount of tinsel (on the television, for example) but I don’t like too much as I do think it can really cheapen the look of a room.
As I work from home, making sure my house is festively decorated is an essential part of my ability to focus during this period… (It is, honest!).
The Finishing Touch
To me, it’s just not Christmas without a wreath on the front door! Luckily, one of my very good friends happens to be a florist (handy) and runs Christmas wreath making workshops throughout early December. This year her & I had a one-to-one wreath making (and coffee drinking, gossiping) session and this was the result!
It brightens up the hallway and brings a bit of festive cheer as soon as you walk through the door!
Below is our Christmas tree expedition in video form, and also a link to Kat’s (florist friend) beautiful website…