Kickstart Your Wedding Planning

Kickstart Your Wedding Planning

Congratulations! You are engaged. How incredibly magical, and no doubt you are both over the moon! Now it’s time to kickstart your wedding planning, right? Obvs. But (as I’m sure you’ve gathered) it’s not quite as easy as that.

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The most common question I get asked as a wedding planner is ‘where do I start?’. And it’s a good question too! Wedding planning can be so exciting, but it’s also a complete minefield. So many choices, so many decisions, and – more often than not – you’ve never done this before; how on earth are you meant to know what to do?

Obviously, you could hire a qualified wedding planner (aka, me…). Which is something I would absolutely suggest doing, if you’re able to. Having someone who knows what they are doing is actually priceless, and can relieve so much stress. At the same time, you might just want a quick answer to know where to start… I’ve got you covered.

Kickstart Your Wedding Planning

If you are thinking of having an extra pair of hands, whether thats just for some supplier recommendations, on-the-day co-ordination, partial planning, or the full works… I’m your gal. Let’s have a chat – no obligation – and see how I might be able to help. Honestly, it’s not as expensive as you might think. Plus, not only have I spent my whole adult life working in the wedding industry, I’m actually qualified in it too.

Let’s have a chat!

You might not be able to hire a wedding planner, and that’s fine too. As a blogger, I love giving information away for free (lucky you…). I’ve recently added a resources page to my website where you can access graphics I’ve created to help you with your wedding planning… Hooray! I’ll be adding to it fairly regularly, so keep your eyes peeled!

The Lila Bailey Resources Page

Happy Planning!

The first graphic in the resources page is a guide to help you kickstart your wedding planning, or at least know where to start. The second is a fun ‘guestlist manager’ to help you decide who you should and shouldn’t consider inviting… Enjoy!

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Engagement Pressures

Engagement Pressures

Engagement pressures… A few weeks ago I did a little youtube video about engagements. I thought I’d do a little post to carry on the conversation, or for anyone who missed the video. No matter where you are in your relationship, or not in one at all, I bet you’ve got an opinion on engagements. I certainly do! And it’s amazing how much my opinion has changed too.

I never used to think the length of time before getting engaged mattered, and I still don’t. But, I do think the amount a couple has experienced together does matter. Like, a lot. That’s just my opinion though, and (harking back to my last post) based on my own personal experience.

 

What Are Engagement Pressures?

Okay, so engagement pressures can be a whole number of things. Pressure from family or friends to ‘hurry up’. Which, by the way, can be felt by both the proposer and the proposee. Pressure from influences (such as social media) for the proposal to be a certain way. Or announced in a certain way. Pressure to get engaged when you might not want to… The list goes on. To be honest, everyone will have their own version or understanding of engagement pressures. And that can’t be avoided (unless you’re insanely lucky). You can find a way of dealing with them though, or even ignoring them altogether.

 

Why Do We Feel Them?

Simply? To satisfy others. Humans have this weird need to be liked, admired, accepted, whatever. And when we feel these pressures from other people, we’re feeling them because we want to be accepted (or whatever) by those people. Or to make those people happy. Whatever the exact reason is, the point is the same. We aren’t feeling them to gain anything for ourselves. So over a topic which really is about you, your significant other, and your feelings, why do we let ourselves succumb to pressures to satisfy the needs of others? Who knows! But we shouldn’t. You shouldn’t. Life will be easier if you don’t.

The same rule applies for your wedding, too. It’s your day, and the only thing that really matters is that you’re committing to spending the rest of your life with the person you love. I mean, that’s pretty bloomin’ special, right?! It doesn’t need to be about anything (or anyone) else. Quite often a wedding turns into a couple trying to prove something, or trying to create this ‘image’ which is more often than not completely untrue. Relax, enjoy it, and who cares what other people think?! Let. It. Go.

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