‘All this, just for one day’ – Let’s Discuss…

Okay, so as a bride-to-be how many times has ‘all this, just for one day’ been said to you? Have you even thought it yourself? I have already had so many people accost me with questions about it ‘just being for one day’. Well, people, I’m about to take you on a journey of discovery.

Newsflash! It’s not just about one day.

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Photo by Dan Ward

All this, just for one day? Part 1…

Firstly, it’s not ‘just a day’. It’s the foundation for your marriage. The day it all started. A celebration of your love. A chance for you to show the people around you how much they mean to you, how much you mean to them, and how much you (as a couple) mean to each other. It’s pretty symbolic.

Not to mention the family & friends reunion side of it. Tell me another instance where you get to sit in a room with all the most important people in your life. In one place. Altogether. For a happy occasion. You can’t? That’s because there isn’t one.

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Photo by Luna Weddings

All this, just for one day? Part 2…

Secondly, why wouldn’t you want an excuse to dress up in the best and most expensive clothing you can afford, drink amazing wine, eat wonderful food, and dance the night away? And whilst smiling the entire time! That sounds like the perfect day. What’s not to love?!

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Photo by Clare Kinchin

All this, just for one day? Part 3…

 

Seriously though, it really isn’t just about that one day. Thirdly, and most importantly, it’s about the journey.

It’s about that indescribable feeling of being proposed to, and the tears of excitement and happiness as you share the news with family & friends.

It’s about deciding who you want to stand beside you on the day, and watching their expression as you tell them.

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It’s about working with your partner and making decisions about your day which reflect you as a couple, and learning more about each other as you do so.

It’s about listening to and respecting your partner’s thoughts & visions for your day and coming to conclusions that you are both happy with.

It’s about wedding dress shopping with your mum and girl-friends, drinking bubbles and squealing for no particular reason, just because.

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It’s about the days out with you girls/boys and giving them a chance to show you how much you mean to them.

It’s about sharing your excitement with your parents, and watching how happy it makes them to see you so elevated.

It’s about all of those little things in the build up. All of the decisions you make because of the wedding. All the conversations you have and all the memories you make along the way.

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So, no, it’s not all for just one day.

 

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Where to Save Your Money – Wedding Priorities

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In my last post, I explored the 4 things worth spending the majority of your wedding budget on (you can find it here). In this post I’ll be chatting about where to save your money; all those little bits which can spiral out of control and actually no-one really notices on the day…

 

Where to save your money

1. Stationery. Don’t get me wrong, I love stationery. And because your stationery the first time your guests get to see a glimpse of your wedding day, it is a really important added touch. But it is an added touch, and whilst everyone needs to know where to be and when, there comes a point where all those stationery extras become a little unnecessary.

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Photo by Clare Kinchin

 

2. The Guestbook. Again, having a guestbook is a lovely touch and a great way to get creative. But let’s be realistic for a second. You don’t need to spend muchon a guestbook. There are many different guest book ideas, none of which cost too much, so don’t try and overcomplicate things by coming up with some elaborate guestbook plan. Save your hard earned cash for putting towards one of the wedding priorities, because – let’s face it – your guests really aren’t going to notice or care about how much money/time/effort you put into the guestbook. They’ll be more interested in the booze – trust me.

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Photo by Luna Weddings

 

3. The Wedding Favours. Personally, I adore the idea of wedding favours. Anything miniature and you’ve got me hooked. That was – however – until I was looking into having gin miniatures as wedding favours at my own wedding. I was going to end up spending £250 on essentially a large shot of gin per person, and for what? The idea is great, and the gin miniatures would’ve been super cute (for about half a minute). But is it worth £250? I’m not saying don’t bother with wedding favours at all, I think they are a lovely touch. Just be clever about it. Instead of spending £1.50 a head, trying spending 40p. Every little helps!

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Photo by Freckle Photography

 

4. Those extra bits. The list of ‘extras’ you can add to your wedding day is honestly endless. Baskets of flip flops, sparklers, sweet stations, additional decor, the list goes on… And if your budget allows, then go for it. But if you’re trying to cut back on your spending then trust me, these things are not a priority. A lovely touch, don’t get me wrong, but should in no way be the focus of your time, energy, and money.

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Photo by Voyteck Photography

Wedding Priorities – What you Should Spend your Money on

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‘Wedding priorities’ is a really important topic, especially if you don’t want to end up spending a fortune. Planning a wedding is no small task, and it can be so easy to get carried away. I’ve recently done a bit of research into what guests actually notice at weddings, and what they don’t. Here’s what I found…

 

Wedding Priorities

  1. The Venue. It does make sense. After all, it doesn’t matter what ‘additions’ you have to your wedding day, if the venue isn’t right then that’s all that people are going to notice. There are loads of elements that make the venue ‘right’ for you, so it’s about deciding what kind of wedding you want and how the venue will reflect you as a couple. It’s also worth considering the time of year you want to get married and finding a venue that suits your chosen season.wedding day priorities blog post

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2. The Ceremony. This is essentially the most important part of your day, and the bit that holds the most meaning. Guests have been waiting for possibly years for this moment, so it’s good to remember that they will actually enjoy it, even if you think it’s the boring part. What makes a ceremony boring is if it’s totally impersonal or it drags on for hours. Keep it around 30-40 minutes long, and include something personal. That might be a reading that means a lot to you, or maybe even writing your own vows. Either way, this is why everyone has ‘gathered here today’ so make the most of it.

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3. The Food & Drink. Providing plenty of food and drink (alcoholic and non-alcoholic) is something that guests will always remember. If the food was scarce or rubbish (or both) then that’s what guests will come away with in the forefront of their minds. Likewise with the drinks (okay, maybe mainly alcohol – but the non-drinkers will sure remember if all they were offered was water!), if the alcohol runs out or the bar is very expensive, this will have a negative impact on the day as a whole. The last thing you want your friends & family to say is ‘lovely wedding but I left hungry and the drinks were overpriced’…

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4. The Music. Whether you opt for a band or a DJ, make sure the tunes are fun and get people on the dance floor. You can’t beat mixing it up with some old-school classics as well as modern pop-hits. And if you are having a band, make sure you’ve either heard them live yourself or they come with excellent recommendations from someone you know or respect. Bands are not cheap, and you can be sure your guests will remember if your first dance was sung out of tune or they only played classic love ballads… Not exactly the crows pleasers you may have hoped for!

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So those are the top 4 wedding priorities. Next up I’ll be exploring the less important elements of a wedding which sometimes get more attention than they deserve…

 

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Your Wedding Day at Ever After – How it Works

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The summer wedding season 2018 is upon us, so I thought it’s about time I explain a little more about what I do & how your wedding day at Ever After will work. Every venue will work in different ways, which is why it’s important to find a venue which works for you and your day…

 

The Day Before

You will have access to the venue from 2pm the day before your wedding (either Friday for a Saturday wedding, or Tuesday for a Wednesday wedding… obvs!). We will have spent the morning getting the venue ready for your arrival, and once you arrive the place is yours! Make yourselves at home in the cottage, or have an explore with your spouse-to-be (why not take your photographer along too…?!).

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Photo: Richard Murgatroyd

Either myself (Bethany) or Nicola will have a brief sit-down with you to go through the final running of your day, and take any bits off your hands (such as place names & favours) ready for setup the next day. Any last minute questions or worries you have can be chatted through then, so that you’ve got the rest of your afternoon & evening to relax and enjoy!

 

Your Wedding Day – Setup

Ever After’s team will usually arrive from 9am and start setting up for your big day! You, of course, will be relaxing, eating breakfast, having your hair & make-up done, and laughing with your bridesmaids. Lifting a finger is a no-go for the bride on the morning of the wedding; leave it to us.

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Photo: Richard Murgatroyd

We’ll have everything ready at least 30 minutes, if not an hour, before guests are due to arrive.

 

Your Wedding Day – The Timeline of Events

Below is a link to our suggested timeline of events for the big day. This is a guideline based on the timings we believe to work the best, but as it is your day, the timings are entirely up to you.

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We will setup, serve, and clear away all arrival drinks. Myself and Nicola will get the ushers to guide guests to their seats for the ceremony, and co-ordinate you & your bridesmaids entrances. We’ll be there to give you 30 minute, 10 minute, and 5 minute warnings, and make sure you look absolutely perfect for your walk down the aisle.

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Photo: Freckle Photography

Following your ceremony, guests will be guided down onto the lawns for the drinks reception(weather permitting). Our waitresses will again serve guests with their drinks and make sure they never have an empty glass! This is usually the best time for you & your new husband to sneak off for those all-important couple shots.

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Photo: Freckle Photography

When it’s time for the wedding breakfast, our team will help get guests seated and co-ordinate your entrance to the marquee (including telling the best man or trusted usher what to say to introduce you!). The catering team will take care of you throughout the meal, whilst behind-the-scenes, myself, Nicola, and Steven will add the necessary finishing touches for your evening reception.

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When it’s time for tea & coffee, the whole EA team will clear the marquee and set it up ready for the evening, before co-ordinating your cake cutting and first dance. The evening festivities will then begin and you can relax in the knowledge that your wedding day has been perfect!

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Photo: Ben Selway

 

Evening Drinks – The Options at Ever After

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Evening Drinks

This is where the fun begins! As great as the evening might be, most couples find this the hardest part in terms of drinks. Do you charge guests for drinks? Do you provide their evening drinks for free? Or how about putting some money behind the bar and charging guests once that has run out? The options seem endless and can be a little daunting.

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Luckily, we’re here to help. We’ve got evening bar packages and we also have the pop-up lounges; there’s a solution in there somewhere.

 

The Options

I’m going to dive straight in here as there is a lot to consider…

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Bringing your own evening drinks and not charging guests – You’ve been supplying the alcohol all day, so you might decide to keep the trend going throughout the evening. You can bring whatever drinks you so choose to serve behind the bar, and let guests enjoy them for free. This is obviously an additional cost to you, and you’ll also have to pay the bar staff. But, guests get to enjoy the evening without having to worry about bringing cash.

 

Bringing your own drinks and asking guests for a donation (honesty bar) – This is quite a popular choice as you’re not out-and-out charging guests but you’re also not providing a whole evening of drinking for free. It can be a risk as not all guests will leave a donation, but you’ll know your guests better than me! Again, you will also have to pay the bar staff.

 

Ever After’s Pay Bar – If you want to charge guests for drinks (not just ask for a donation) then our pay bar option is the best one for you. Drinks, staffing and glasses are all included free of charge, and as guests are paying for their own drinks there is no cost to you at all. You can relax! There are two pricing options, the branded option and the premium option. The prices are slightly different based on the drink brands and mixers etc (e.g. Gordon’s gin and schweppes tonic vs Sipsmiths gin and fever tree tonic).

 

Ever After’s Free Bar – If don’t want to charge guests for their evening drinks, but you could do without the hassle of quantities and ordering and delivery and sorting out the glasses and surplus drinks the day after, we can take care of that for you. Again, there are a couple of options here…

Your guests can have free unlimited drinks all night for £28pp (branded option) or £40pp (premium option), depending on your preference. You can also choose to have between 1-6 free drinks (per person) provided by you, and then a pay bar once those have run out. There’s also the option of putting a cash sum behind the bar, and then a pay bar once that cash has run out.

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Here is a link to our drinks package 2018 , which goes into more detail about all the drink options from start to finish. Again, if you have any more questions then do get in touch!

 

Pop-up Lounges

Something else to consider is hiring one or both of our pop-up lounges which include a fair bit of alcohol. The pop-up lounges would be ‘free’ to guests, which could impact your decision about what to do with the bar. Plus, they are seriously cool.

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Here’s a little more about them…

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Wedding Breakfast Drinks – The Options at Ever After

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Wedding breakfast drinks are normally nice and simple. You don’t want to be serving much more than wine during the meal (because there’s still a whole evening of drinking ahead), and we will always make sure there is plenty of water on the table…

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Wedding Breakfast Drinks – The Options

As with arrival drinks and reception drinks, you can still bring your own wines to serve with the meal. Again, we don’t charge any corkage (and never will!). If you’d rather we sourced and provided the wines, we’ve put together an extensive wine list (courtesy of Christopher Piper Wines). As it’s quite a hefty list, I won’t write it below, but if you’d like to see it then just send myself or Nicola an email (bethany@lowergrenofen.co.uk or nicola@lowergrenofen.co.uk).

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Ever After’s Splendid Package – Between £4.50 and £5.50pp.

Ever After’s Premium Package – £7.50pp.

Ever After’s Ultimate Package – Between £7 and £12pp.

The prices depend on the final wine choice. These packages all include 1/2 a bottle of wine per person, and we’ll provide a selection of red & white wines. Rose can be sourced upon request.

If you know you have more white wine drinkers than red (or vice versa) we can provide – for example – 60% white and 40% red, or whatever your preference is.

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There are also the toasting drinks to consider. Again, you can provide your own champagne/sparkling wine or you can opt for one of our selections. We have 4 different champagne/sparkling wine options ranging from £3.50pp and £7.50pp. You know where to find me if you’d like the list!

Reception Drinks – The Options at Ever After

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Reception Drinks

In my last post, I talked you through arrival drinks. Now, reception drinks (or post-ceremony drinks). This part of your happens immediately after your ceremony, and it’s – personally – my favourite part of a wedding day! Guests are guided down to the lawns and/or terrace where drinks are poured waiting. They then have and hour or two to enjoy the surroundings at Ever After!

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Post-ceremony drinks are also when you can start get super creative with your drinks (if you want to!). Whether you’re going for pimp-your-prosecco, fancy G&Ts, or ice baths of beer bottles & soft drinks, this is the time to do it.

 

The Options

As with the arrival drinks, you can of course still supply your own alcohol (F.O.C) to serve your guests. And there are also some Ever After packages to consider…

 

Bringing your own drinks – As I said, you’re more than welcome to do this still and there is no corkage charge.

 

Ever After’s Splendid Package – £8pp and includes Pimms or prosecco, bottled beer, soft drinks.

 

Ever After’s Premium Package – £13pp and includes a ‘pimp your prosecco cart’ or a 1-spirit cocktail (which you can choose yourself), English sparkling wine, bottled beer, soft drinks with straws.

 

Ever After’s Ultimate Package – £18pp and includes champagne or 2 spirit cocktails, premium bottled beer, premium soft drinks with straws.

 

Drink Suggestions

We always encourage couples to provide a main drink which is different to the drink served at arrivals. For example, if you opted for the Splendid package and had prosecco on arrival, we would suggest you swap to pimms for the reception drinks. It mixes it up a bit and keeps guests interested!

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Like I said, you can start to get quite creative with your drinks. ‘His & Hers’ cocktails are increasingly popular, as well as gin carts with premium tonics and garnishes. It’s also worth considering having a drinks dispenser of flavoured water available. We provide the water, you’ll just need to bring the garnishes (cucumber/lemon etc). Here are some suggestions…

  • His & Hers cocktails; one gin-based and one rum-based, sparkling wine, bottled beer, elderflower fizz (non-alcoholic), cucumber water.
  • ‘Pimp-your-prosecco’, bottled cider, raspberry lemonade (non-alcoholic), lemon water.
  • Gin cart with 6 different gins and a selection of fever tree tonic waters & garnishes, prosecco, lager, pomegranate cordial (non-alcoholic), lime water.
  • Pimms & garnishes, bottled cider, white wine, san pellegrino lemonade (non-alcoholic), apple water.

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Arrival Drinks – The Options at Ever After

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When it comes to your wedding day, there is a lot to think about. My best advice would be to split the day up into manageable chunks. Starting with arrival drinks, for example. In this blog post series I’m going to be talking you through the different drink options available at Ever After and suggestions about what to provide.

As you probably already know, I work full-time for the gorgeous wedding venue Ever After. I do a lot of blog posts over on EA’s website, so I thought why not bring some of them over here! So sit back and enjoy some tips & tricks about how we do things at Ever After!

 

Arrival Drinks

If you are getting married at the venue (rather than church), then you will probably invite your guests to arrive an hour before the ceremony. You guests will then gather by the ponds (weather permitting) and enjoy a beverage (or two) before being ushered to the wedding barn to watch you get married.

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An hour is not actually that long, especially when you factor in 5-10 minutes or so seated before the ceremony begins. Also, legally, there cannot be any alcohol in the ceremony space. So guests will have to finish all drinks before being seated. With that in mind, it’s worth thinking about simplistic drinks to serve at this point of the day. But, more on that later…

 

The Options

You may or may not be familiar with Ever After’s drinks package, new for this year. The package widens your options, and is designed so that you won’t need to source a mobile bar. You, of course, don’t have to use one of our packages and are still free to provide your own drinks (still no corkage!).

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Here are your options…

 

Bringing your own drinks– As I said, you are still welcome to do this and there is no charge for doing so, although you will have to pay waiting staff.

 

Ever After’s Splendid Package– This package is £6pp and includes; prosecco or pimms with garnish & straws, bottled lager, soft drinks.

 

Ever After’s Premium Package – For £10pp your guests can enjoy; English sparkling wine, bottled fruit cider, bottled lager, soft drinks with straws. This is also an unlimited package (for the duration of arrival drinks).

 

Ever After’s Ultimate Package – Another unlimited package for £13pp, including; Gremillet NV Champagne with optional edible flowers or West Country Pimms with straws, premium bottled beer, premium soft drinks with straws.

 

All the Ever After packages include staff costs.

 

Drink Suggestions

As I mentioned earlier, this part of your day is usually only 45 minutes to an hour long, so not huge amounts of time for complex drinks. Things like ‘pimp your prosecco’ stations are best saved for the reception drinks as they are time consuming and guests may end up having to leave a half-finished drink before heading into the ceremony.

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For your arrival drinks, keep things simple and don’t offer too much of a choice. Complicated cocktails are wonderful for the post-ceremony drinks reception, but pre-ceremony not so much. You also don’t want to end up with half-cut guests before the ceremony has even started, so spirit based drinks are best avoided.

Some drink suggestions…

  • Prosecco & bottles of beer, as well as a soft drink option (such as cucumber water).
  • A glass of pimms & bottles of cider, with an elderflower fizz for the non-drinkers.
  • Wine & lager, and a non-alcoholic raspberry lemonade.
  • Keep things simple and just offer soft drinks; guests will have plenty of alcohol throughout the rest of the day.

And if you want to make a simple drink more interesting, you can always add garnishes such as edible flowers, fruit, or colourful straws.

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Take a look at some of last year’s weddingsfor inspiration…

 

How to Choose a Wedding Colour Scheme

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The date has been set, venue booked, suppliers falling into place… Now to get down to the details. Some of you may not think that a wedding colour scheme is high on the list of priorities. I can understand why, but (trust me) it is. A colour scheme falls into the category of branding. Branding? My wedding? This lady is craaazy!

Bear with me

You know I’m the biggest advocate for weddings being about love and each other. And not a lot else. However, if you are spending (fill the gap) amount on your wedding, you want it to be right. You’re going to dress your bridesmaids anyway. And have flowers anyway. Likewise with napkins, tablecloths, wedding favours, etc. So your colour scheme is not adding anything onto your wedding, it’s simply bringing it together.

When you come to think of it, there is a lot that needs to coordinate on the day.

 

Flowers

When thinking of your wedding colour scheme, flowers probably spring to mind first. They are, after all, the main source of colour on the day. Whether your flowers determine your colour scheme or vice versa doesn’t matter. What’s important is that once your colours have been chosen, you stick with them throughout. Remember, if you’re having centrepiece flowers then the tableware has to come into consideration. And if you fancy bold flowers, you’ve got to consider how that might affect the overall ‘look’ of the day.

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Bridesmaids and Ushers

Probably one of the hardest things about organising a wedding is not only picking your bridesmaids and ushers, but dressing them too. Want to know what will make this easier? A colour scheme. Your groom wants blue suits, white shirts, and red ties. Without a colour scheme you might agree happily (seeing as he’s letting you pick – let’s face it – everything else). Then it comes to finding a dress for your gals. You’ve finally got them to agree on a dress they all love. But, the dress is bright fuchsia. It is going to look awful next to the usher’s ties. So you either tell your groom to change his choice, or you have to start again with the girls.

Disaster. Stressful. Easily Avoidable.

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Tableware

If you are going along the traditional and simplistic white/ivory theme for the tables, then you’ve not got much to worry about here. But if you want a pop of colour in the napkins, table runners, or even tablecloths themselves, then you have got to create a clear colour vision. There is no point spending your hard earned cash on stunning centrepiece flowers if they are going to be totally washed out in the photos because of your tablecloth choice. Or, worse, look completely dreadful because it all clashes.

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Wedding Colour Scheme Tips

Keep. It. Simple. Don’t over complicate it. Less is more. (etc). Start with one colour that you definitely want. Blush pink is always a good example because it can be matched to a lot of other colours without looking over the top. Then have a look at the ‘vibe’ of your day. Are you going for a rustic/boho vibe? Try greens, ivories, and maybe even a touch of burgundy. Having a glamorous celebration? Blush pink and gold is always a winner. Or maybe you’re a traditional gal with a modern edge, in which case why not try grey tones with your blush pink?

Personally, I’m not a huge fan of Pinterest. It’s an unpopular opinion, I know. But, Pinterest is fantastic for colour schemes. You can simply put (for example) ‘blush pink wedding colour palette’ in the search bar and there are always some fab colour palette suggestions.

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In any project, you always need a starting point. When talking about wedding colours, your starting point should be your base colour. As with most of your planning, take things one step at a time. Everything always seems more manageable in small pieces!

 

 

 

 

 

Millennial pink; 2018 wedding trends

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MILLENNIAL PINK; 2018 WEDDING TRENDS

 

It’s that time of year when the 2018 wedding trend predictions are in full swing, and we are loving what is being talked about. I’m particularly loving the recent trend report from Coco weddings (which you can find here). Emma talks about the changes we can expect from drinks, flowers, and even a bit of influence from the land down under… But my fave is the pink influence gradually seeping back in.

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And we’re not just talking blush pinks here, there is a whole new pink known as ‘millennial pink’… What’s that? Well, that’s the tricky part. It’s sort of a grapefruit shade of apricotty salmon… Yum!(?) Millennial pink is not actually one specific colour, it’s a range of colours that fall in the pink category… Some suggest this millennial pink trend started with the first ‘rose gold’ iPhone, which – let’s face it – is hardly rose gold. But, wherever it came from it looks like it’s here to stay for 2018!

 

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I guess they’ve termed it millennial pink because all us ‘millennials’ are now the crucial influence on upcoming trends… even wedding trends which is super scary.

*The millennial generation is the generation of children born between 1982 and 2002*

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YOUR THOUGHTS

So, millennial pink… what are we thinking? Leave a comment below or send a message on facebook with your thoughts on this upcoming trend. And maybe you have some 2018 wedding trend predictions of your own?

 

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