Engagement Pressures

engagement pressures

Engagement pressures… A few weeks ago I did a little youtube video about engagements. I thought I’d do a little post to carry on the conversation, or for anyone who missed the video. No matter where you are in your relationship, or not in one at all, I bet you’ve got an opinion on engagements. I certainly do! And it’s amazing how much my opinion has changed too.

I never used to think the length of time before getting engaged mattered, and I still don’t. But, I do think the amount a couple has experienced together does matter. Like, a lot. That’s just my opinion though, and (harking back to my last post) based on my own personal experience.

 

What Are Engagement Pressures?

Okay, so engagement pressures can be a whole number of things. Pressure from family or friends to ‘hurry up’. Which, by the way, can be felt by both the proposer and the proposee. Pressure from influences (such as social media) for the proposal to be a certain way. Or announced in a certain way. Pressure to get engaged when you might not want to… The list goes on. To be honest, everyone will have their own version or understanding of engagement pressures. And that can’t be avoided (unless you’re insanely lucky). You can find a way of dealing with them though, or even ignoring them altogether.

 

Why Do We Feel Them?

Simply? To satisfy others. Humans have this weird need to be liked, admired, accepted, whatever. And when we feel these pressures from other people, we’re feeling them because we want to be accepted (or whatever) by those people. Or to make those people happy. Whatever the exact reason is, the point is the same. We aren’t feeling them to gain anything for ourselves. So over a topic which really is about you, your significant other, and your feelings, why do we let ourselves succumb to pressures to satisfy the needs of others? Who knows! But we shouldn’t. You shouldn’t. Life will be easier if you don’t.

The same rule applies for your wedding, too. It’s your day, and the only thing that really matters is that you’re committing to spending the rest of your life with the person you love. I mean, that’s pretty bloomin’ special, right?! It doesn’t need to be about anything (or anyone) else. Quite often a wedding turns into a couple trying to prove something, or trying to create this ‘image’ which is more often than not completely untrue. Relax, enjoy it, and who cares what other people think?! Let. It. Go.

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Fifty Eight gin; wedding ginspiration from the heart of the East End

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FIFTY EIGHT GIN; WEDDING GINSPIRATION

 

Let’s be-gin (classic pun)… I love when it’s time to try another gin (I mean, who doesn’t?!), especially when it’s one as nice as fifty eight! It’s amazing how much gin can vary from one to another, and the rise of creative gin making is most definitely on the up.

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THE GIN

Fifty eight, or 58, is single shot distilled in Hackney, London. * Single shot distillation; the head and tail parts are cut off leaving more of the heart. This removes any initial sharpness or unpleasant aftertaste and is replaced with a crisp taste and a soft finish. *

There are 9 botanicals used in 58 gin;

  • Juniper
  • Coriander seed
  • Orris root
  • Angelica
  • Cubeb pepper
  • Sicilian lemon
  • Pink grapefruit
  • Bergamot
  • Bourbon vanilla

58 Gin is produced in a traditional manner using beautiful alembic copper stills. The 58 experts claim it has a distinctive smooth and clean taste, but let’s see what we thought…

 

TASTING NOTES

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As usual, Euan tried the gin neat first of all (I’m still unwilling) and experienced a soft, clean, and crisp taste (as the experts said!), with a hint of citrus.

He then made the gin & tonics, using fever tree tonic and garnishing one glass with lemon (yuck!) and one glass with lime (yum!). In the craft gin club magazine, which comes with each monthly gin, they suggested using a grapefruit and rosemary tonic with this particular gin. Euan disagrees with this (has to be different), and thinks this particular gin doesn’t need flavoured tonic, but I’m always up for trying something new (and proving Euan wrong…)!

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I really enjoyed this gin. It was pleasant, smooth, and very drinkable. Out of all the gins I have tried so far through the craft gin club, it is probably coming out top (but very closely followed by the Kyro Napue gin). Interestingly, one of the first things I said was it reminded me of Plymouth gin, which is also a single shot distilled gin (I am officially an expert, just saying).

Euan said much the same; very pleasant, smooth, and enjoyable. We both tend to go for gins with a bit more of a ‘kick’, however sometimes something smooth and easy drinking is all you need.

We both agreed that there is an initial citrus taste to this gin, followed by after-tones that we couldn’t quite put our fingers on, but suspect it could be the vanilla.

Euan also said that this gin was (obviously) stronger neat, but the actual flavour was much the same. What he found with a couple of the previous gins were that they were very different neat than with tonic, hence being more in favour of flavoured tonics for those gins rather than this particular one.

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We tried the gin with the lemon and the lime and both concluded there wasn’t a lot of difference between the two. Euan said this was positive as a garnish isn’t designed to flavour a gin. I very rarely enjoy gin & tonics with lemon, and will always have lime (unless an alternative garnish is suggested), but with this gin I found the lemon to be equally as tasty as the lime (honestly, it’s a miracle!). I would most definitely choose this gin in a restaurant, and even to have in the house (Christmas present ideas…).

 

BRANDING

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We loved the shape of the bottle, the blue wax seal, and the lettering, however we weren’t so keen on the image in the middle. I assumed it had some relevance (I love to assume), but I couldn’t find much about the branding online. I don’t think the bottle/label stands out quite like some of the previous gins have done, but I do think it’s in-keeping with the smooth and almost calm feel to the gin.

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WEDDING COCKTAILS

Euan was very much adamant that he would make a simple Gin Martini with an olive to garnish. He thought the gin had a great flavour and doesn’t think there’s any need to cover it up with complicated cocktail ingredients (but colourful cocktails are fun!).

Euan’s Gin Martini

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  • 50ml of fifty eight gin
  • 15ml of dry vermouth
  • One olive to garnish

Pour the gin and vermouth into a shaker with lots of ice and stir (much to the dismay of James Bond). Strain into a martini glass and garnish.

 

The craft gin club magazine created a cocktail called the ‘Marmont Fizz’ which I very much like the sound of!

Marmont Fizz

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  • 6 mint leaves, plus one to garnish
  • 20ml of lemon juice
  • 15ml of elderflower cordial
  • 35ml of fifty eight gin
  • 15ml of apple juice
  • Champagne, chilled, to top

Add all the ingredients into a shaker over ice. Shake and strain. Top with champagne and a mint leaf to garnish.

 

VLOG TIME!

If reading is too much of a hassle, why not watch us try the gin instead?!